I am 16 male, and my gf is 16 aswell. We started dating for 3+ years now. I never did smt bad to her, always cared about every detail. I didn’t like her tho, I just felt guilty and terrible to reject her (mind ya I was 13 when we started dating).
Am not getting into details about our relationship more but am going to say it was good from her side not mine, bc I didn’t love her but she did love me.
So, one day she told me she will leace everything from school and dump me because her dad died, I understand that because she was in shock and heartbroken. I just panicked and didn’t know what to do and I told her that her father will NOT like the idea of her not going to school anymore and she just kinda approved a lil.
After that I didn’t know what to do, I mean it is my first time to try to comfort someone bc their beloved one died.
So, I just left her alone for 1-2 days and didn’t say anything were I should have be with her I guess.
And then I literally with all my mind just sent her a video with the song “Did I tell you that I missed you?” And she saw it and blocked me and we didn’t talk since then.
Am really hating myself for what I did, she felt betrayed.
Not the best way to comfort someone. But atleast you’re trying. If you ever gain contact again I suggest talking with her and seeing what she needs instead of guessing and making things worse at an already difficult time. If you truly still care for her, just keep trying, but make sure to respect any boundaries she sets.
But you are the asshole for dating her even though you don’t like her, you’re leading her on and have no one to blame but yourself. You have to be honest with her.
For the love of god – FUND THE SCHOOLS! Whatever happened to mandatory testing?
Oh good – someone as confused as me. wtf did this post say????
YTA
First of all, I could barely understand what you’re trying to say — you need to fix your typos, clean up your sentences, and use actual words.
Next, staying in a relationship with someone while knowing you don’t like them already doing them a massive disservice, and that automatically makes you the AH. I’m not sure what you’re looking for while posting this because you know you mishandled the situation. Ask yourself how you’d like someone to care for you when you grieve. How would you react if your significant other send you a song cover after ignoring you for days following a deeply upsetting event?
Even your song choice fails to express any empathy. Telling her that you miss her is centering yourself when you should be focusing on her wellbeing.
I’m having a hard time understanding half of this.
dawg ts don’t make sense
NAH It sounds like a lot of things are going on and this is exactly the age you learn to deal with them. You didn’t handle it great, but no one does their first time. Right now, play it by ear and give her space, but don’t get back together with her if you don’t like her.
Try to learn from this and move forward. If you have a trusted adult in your life, maybe discuss how to be a good friend to someone who is grieving because it’s going to keep happening. Use this discomfort to learn how to react better in the future.
I am a dumber man for having read that.
That said, YTA for, if nothing else, dating someone for three years who you apparently don’t even like. If nothing else this is showing why America needs to put better funding into their education system.
You don’t like her and don’t want to date her.
She has now blocked you.
This is what you want. Stop thinking about it, leave her alone.
Don’t ever spend 3 years of your life dating someone you don’t like.
Learn from this and move on.
NAH.
Must be rough to lose someone who (“it was good from her side not mine, bc I didn’t love her but she did love me.”). (“I didn’t like her tho, I just felt guilty and terrible to reject her (mind ya I was 13 when we started dating”). Your words coming back to haunt you. Man up a bit.
You’re young and obviously need to learn how to be honest or a caring person. Grow and learn how to be kind and honest with others. You didn’t want her, she excused herself. Cope and grow, kid.
YTA for stringing someone along for 3 years. You knew it was wrong at 13 so don’t play dumb.