UPDATE: AITA For wanting to move out despite parents’ problems at home?

Thank you for the advice. I didn’t realise how cut and dry this was. After living with my family for years I’m able to see it from their perspective and through a certain cultural lens a lot more so it was nice to see that despite the problems at home, people were very supportive of me wanting to move out.

I spoke to my mum again yesterday and while I didn’t mention the post here, I was a lot more firm on wanting to live my life in a way that makes me happy.

It was an emotional, long conversation but she came around in a way that I didn’t think she would to be honest. She agreed that it’s only right that I am able to enjoy my life and get free of the constant unease and tension that’s in the house. She voiced her fears about being left alone with an alcoholic husband and not being confident enough in English to be able to run a shop herself and make new friends/connections, but we discussed it, and while I can tell the worry is still there which is natural, we are on the same page.

We spoke about me buying a flat and how we’d go about it and it really is happening, and I’m much happier that I have her support.

I think the last few years of my dad being an alcoholic and not being caring towards my mum have really changed her perspective on certain things, and she’s more so glad that I am confidently building a life that makes me happy.

Seems like one more honest, open conversation was all that was needed. Its difficult to approach those with stricter parents who are raised differently when it comes to expressing emotions; but the support here and from my friends really did help push me toward not wasting any more time and beginning to live my life on my own terms more. Thanks.