I’ve been roommates with this girl for a semester and we’re not exactly friends but we talk. One thing she does that I find so inconsiderate and rude is she will let the door slam everytime she leaves or enters the room. She usually wakes up earlier than me on the weekends and will sometimes come back to the dorm when I’m already sleep. Every single time she opens the door super wide then lets it slam. When I tell you this door is heavy it is HEAVY, it slams so hard the room will shake a little.
I have asked her multiple times to please close it quietly because it wakes me up and then it takes me a minute to fall back asleep. She’ll say “oh I’m sorry I’ll try to remember” or “I’m just always in a rush I forget.”
I want to know would I be wrong if I started doing the same to her. I usually wake up earlier than her on weekdays for class/work or wake up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom. I always try my best to be super quiet to not wake her but I feel like she needs to know how disruptive it is when she does this basically everyday. My friends say I should take the high road and leave it alone because it’s only one more semester of this but that’s a whole four months of no continuous sleep. I don’t see any other way to get her to stop.
NTA. If she complains tell her that you’ve just accepted that apparently your room policy is to slam doors. If she changes her ways you’ll changes yours. Sometimes being tit for tat is the way.
Info: Is there an RA that you have talked to about this? And are there rooms nearby which you might distrupt? I know in my dorm, I can heard slamming from down the hall and I’d be extremely mad if two girls were both slamming the doors at each other.
I wouldn’t bother tbh. I would put a note over the handle that reminds her to shut it quietly though. If she then keeps doing it then I would probably do it once and see what happens. You have to live together and this stuff can escalate ridiculously fast. Ask your neighbours if it bothers them.
Also, can you add some foam to the door to stop it slamming so loudly?
NTA but you could do yourself and her a favor and adjust the closer with a screwdriver. You probably have one with a little arm on top of the door. It’s super easy and just takes a minute. See what kind you have a look up a YouTube video. If it won’t make the door close slower then it’s broken and maintenance will probably replace it for you
Slam away.
I’m surprised at college kid can’t figure this out.
NTA
Maybe do it one time, to make a point? Early in the morning after she was out the night before and really wants sleep? But don’t turn it into a battle. Like you said, it’s just one semester left and she isn’t close to you so you won’t have to put up with each other after the year is up.
Talk to RA-if assigned or even available.
Also yup slam, and you have taken the high road and that sometimes should have an end otherwise you become an enabler for bad behavior.
Plus stop be extra quiet ! She clearly doesn’t deserve your extra efforts.
No not all I would be petty enough to tape a sign that says do not slam door on it and say just so you won’t forget
Maybe you could get something to quiet the door? Not sure if they would eat you stick these on the door frame but they do help quiet slamming doors[hushbumps](https://a.co/d/25qZMSB)
Some people need to be shown how their shit behaviour affects others, so do it. Also ‘forget’ things and come in and back out a few times.
I hate it when people say take the high road, be the bigger person …. when you have already done this. You’ve mentioned it to her politely a few times. She hasnt taken it on board.
Obviously thats not working, so take a step down from the high road and treat her how she treats you.
Personally the first time I’d let the door slam, I’d forget something and do it twice in one sitting.
NTA maybe she’ll suddenly remember not to slam the door of others do it