I’m renting an Airbnb for me and husband while we look for long term housing but his friend decided to visit and because of the polar ice storm they will have delayed flights and insinuated they need to spend the night for 2 days now. I said okay but now THEIR friends (my husband’s friends’ friends) need a place to stay and are staying overnight because my dumb husband told her yes. I’m just so drained and don’t want to host and don’t know these people and we are using money buying food we aren’t in a position to host. My privacy is invaded. His friend and I both know I’m pissed about this because my husband never informed me and I just found out people are sleeping at my house I don’t know. I told him he and his friend they are wrong and I want to lock myself up in my bedroom until they leave. To top it off we don’t have our own place to stay when we move. I’m just so pissed and tired. AITA?
NTA. But it’s a snow emergency suck it up for one night. Like, if the shoe was reversed and you were in another city and dependent upon others for a place to stay ……
Who didn’t realize this storm was coming though? It was predicted before it even formed in Mother Natures uterus. Their bad planning is now OPs emergency
I would totally suck it up for 1-3 days. It is an emergency and all hotels are booked solid.
That said, husband should have talked to the wife first and everyone should be pitching in with groceries, cooking, cleaning etc. it shouldn’t be falling squarely on OP’s shoulders
NTA and let your husband and his friend do all the hosting. Also it would be exceptionally rude if they expected you to buy food for them – they should be buying any groceries as a sign of gratitude
NTA
It’s more on your husband; don’t take it out on the guests. Do feel free to hole up in your room. Do tell your husband directly that you are holing up and he needs to take on all hosting duties. Then let it go and have fun loafing in bed.
This is the way!
NTA.
This is your home (even if it’s only temporary) and you have the right to be comfortable and safe.
There may be something in the rules of the airbnb that are being broken by extra guests staying over so check your contract.
NTA. At first I was going with yes but *friend of a friend*?? you should absolutely be able to put your foot down at “friend of the friend” wtf. are you running a hostel within an Airbnb?
Lock yo self up girl, ain’t nobody got time for that. How annoying.
Ask what they’re buying for dinner, in exchange for housing.
NTA. If the weather was forcing the stay, I get that sucks for everyone, but your husband shouldn’t have made that decision without you. And why can’t they pay for their own food? Make sure this doesn’t get you in trouble with your airbnb host, either.
Get your request for their share ready send from your husband.
You’re NTA, but they should have enough manners to offer to pay for the food they’re eating. If they aren’t offering, then you and your husband should inform them that you would appreciate it if they contributed towards their upkeep. It’s a snow emergency and it’s a good deed for you to help them out, but while they’re there, they should be more considerate.
NTA
I live in MN and have had to “play host” to people when bad weather arises. Maybe it’s the Minnesota nice – but I’ll always offer my couch if it’s needed.
I can see being annoyed if you don’t know these people well and it’s multiple days. Just be honest and set boundaries. Tell them you don’t have the budget to feed extra adults and have them venmo you. When they leave have a convo with hubby about communication. Tell him he needs to include you in the decision making.
It’s totally fair to not want “strangers” in your house. I think the circumstances in this situation matter though.
If you want to get rid of them, just say the landlord contacted you because they realized there were unauthorized extra overnight guests. Tell them you and are husband are in danger of being kicked out if they don’t leave. Seriously, AirBnB owners have called the police to kick out renters who had extra people sleeping over. They can get a hotel room. You are not their only option.