So recently my girlfriend mom and dad got a divorce (last July) so the mom kicked him out so he moved in with his son and his girlfriend and him and the girlfriend kept getting into it constantly so my girl asks me if he could stay with us for awhile till he get on his feet I said sure i don’t mind this was 2 weeks ago fast forward for today Its snowing all day real bad so I go outside and shovel the backyard and the garage driveway then i go do the front of the house So later now I ask my girl hey is it possible that you can ask your dad to help out shoveling in the front cause he’s the only one who go out in the front of the house me snd my girl park in the garage so she says why don’t you just do it the issue I have is I’m 25M your dad is 50M why cant he come help shovel especially since he don’t take out the garbage or clean dishes the least he can do is help shovel especially since he just watching my shovel all morning like he didn’t offer to help or ask if I had another shovel nothing
NTA. He’s staying with you guys and he’s doing no other chores, so why is asking him to help shovel the front when that’s what *he uses* and not you two such a crime?
No I don’t think so. Dad is not a that old. The least he do was offer. Offer to do anything.
Wow, id feel like a lowlife moving in with my son and his girlfriend. Especially after getting kicked out of the brothers crib too. Does he work?
OP, this isn’t going to work. You go in that house tell him he needs to help. And then afterwards you sit down with him and tell him that if he’s going to stay with you, he has to contribute to the house by doing chores. What are you thinking, letting him do nothing?
You right definitely should say something like I don’t mind him being here cause ik he in a tough spot in life it happens but cmon bruh least help out he buys food which is cool but if me and his daughter can go outside to shovel idk y he cant (she only without to shovel cause i was in the shower earlier and idk she was doing it)
Not just this, but taking out garbage, helping with the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, etc.
Nta, the dad should come out and help you,
NTA. You were asking him to contribute while staying in your home. He’s an able-bodied adult, not a guest at a hotel.
Well if he’s the only one going out the front…….Just leave the front, no worries, maybe he’ll get the hint.
INFO: How is his health generally? There’s a reason heavy snow is called a widowmaker. He definitely should be helping out while he’s staying there but shoveling snow is not necessarily safe for him.
Nta, my guess is you just found out why he got divorced.
NTA, if you’ve had him in your house for two weeks already I would suggest you start looking to kick him out before he meets the 30 day mark because you don’t wanna deal with a family squatter.
This won’t work, sounds problematic and this is your home, you deserve peace in your place of domicile.
In all seriousness. You have to work on your punctuation. That was a tough read.
And he should definitely be helping out.