To note, this is not a super crazy post, I just want to know if I’m right to feel this or not.
I, (17m), just found that my Mother, (48f), is giving away all the furniture from my childhood home. For context, we had just moved to a new city 2 hours away from my hometown and bought a new house. I’m was fine with moving, but what I wasn’t fine with was how my mom decided to give everything away for free.
I told her this was an unwise decision but she said I was being morally wrong for keeping things that other might need. All I wanted was to have some of the furniture for the new house, or at the very least sell it for the proper value. For example, the dining room table was over $1000 when she bought it, it can seat 6 people and expand to hold 8, but she wants to give it away for free, seeing it as “a sign of God”.
I don’t believe in God or any religion for that matter, but I still feel this is a bad idea even without religion involved. When I was 6, she said I’d have that house when she passed, but now I feel like she’s going back on that by removing everything that made it my home. I just want to know if I’m just selfish about inheritance or if this is an actual questionable decision on her part?
Yta and grow up
YTA
She doesn’t want to sell it. That’s the end of it.
YTA. You’re counting your mom’s money before she’s dead. That’s not your inheritance until she’s dies. Right now these are her belongings and it’s up to her to decide what she wants to do with it.
Furniture doesn’t hold resale value, and selling it and dealing with timewasters can be a huge pain. Your Mum is kind for giving it away for free. Your mum is probably going to be around for another 50 years and you’ll get your inheritance in your 60s, so I wouldn’t be counting on it for your immediate future. Yta
Also if there is furniture that is sentimental to you, try having a mature conversation with your Mum about being able to hold onto a piece or two.
My parents had a huge expensive table and dining chairs that they moved with them from house to house for ages, they sold it last year for $50
YTA. but I’m putting religion aside and just looking at reality-
As someone who’s dealt with this when the person was deceased, no one wants to buy the furniture for a decent price that has been used they have to come get
>$1000 when she bought it, it can seat 6 people and expand to hold 8
no one is going to pay 1k for something they have to figure out how to transport
this is why people pay 1800 got junk.
If you look on the Facebook marketplace anything expensive you see is usually an old listing getting absolutely no hits.
Also the moving costs vs downsizing and getting new items may be somewhat cheaper or break even so why not just get all new stuff.
YTA I see where your coming from but it’s not yours
NAH. I get why you feel the way you do. But at the end of the day, it’s her furniture to give away if she chooses.
YTA, it’s not yours. You’re stepping in where you have no authority and it’s asshole.
If you want pieces, ask. If not, MYOB.
YTA. It’s her stuff not yours
YTA. You inheriting her home when she dies – hopefully decades from now – does not require her to maximize the potential value of said home. Shes not taking anything away from you just because she decided that charity was more important than profit.
If certain pieces have sentimental significance to you, talk to her about keeping those items so you can have them later, but their actual cost is irrelevant to this conversation.
YTA. It’s not your call and has nothing to do with you. Used furniture goes for very little, it’s typically easier to just give it away.
and kudos to your mother for wanting to share with others what she no longer needs.