So I (15M), have a pretty eh dandruff issue, to fix this, I asked my grandma to get me some dandruff shampoo, to which she told me to just use the one in the shower already, belonging to my (12F) sister. She was always the favorite or whatever but they’ve gotten better. I’ve been using it for MONTHS now, and never had an issue. Then, one fateful day, I came back from the gym after I had worked out and showered there, and the shampoo bottle was laying on the floor in my room. She walked in and looked at it, then asked me why it was there. I laugh alot because I’m a class clown or whatever they call me at school, and told her thats what I use. She they looked at me horrified for some unknown reason, exclaimed, "What?!" And proceeded to leave my room.
A couple weeks later, today, after her shower. She came into my room and asked me to stop using it, as she felt uncomfortable sharing with me? I said it was the only dandruff shampoo in the house and that I couldn’t get another one. She then proceeded to ignore that and said she felt uncomfortable. I asked why and she said she just did. Now, I have a lot of female friends, and I almost always make sure to respect boundaries, but I just can’t see a reason to be uncomfortable sharing shampoo? If I’m the problem here, just tell me, but I was only doing what my grandma told me to.
NTA just tell her that grandma told you that you could use it. If she has a problem with that, she needs to talk to the grandma. IMO there is nothing weird about sharing shampoo.
I did, and she kept saying she didn’t feel confortable. So ion know whats up.
NAH. You’re using the one you were told to use, but it’s not unreasonable for her to be a bit taken aback that she was sharing hygiene products without knowing it.
Why was it on the floor in your room though? Sharing the one in the shower means using it when you use that shower, not taking it to the gym with you or anywhere else.
I’m thoroughly confused, particularly by the shampoo bottle magically appearing on your floor. That said, you’re siblings who share a bathroom. You’re well within the reasonable side of things to be sharing a bottle of shampoo. NTA
It was in my bag, and when I tossed it it fell out. Thats on me.
So you took this shared shampoo out of the house? Seems to me it should stay in the shower so you both have access to it when you need it.
NTA you need to go back to your grandma and let her know that your sister is upset with you using her shampoo. But also, put it back after you’ve used it? It doesn’t need to be sitting on the floor of your room
She’s 12. Tell her go to get a bottle of No More Tears so she stops crying about it.
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I can’t stop laughing at this
NTA, your grandma told you to use it, it was not your idea.
NTA
Dandruff shampoo is unisex. Hair is hair and both teen boys and girls are prone to developing dandruff, especially with oily scalp coming into play. My teen son has long hair and he goes to the salon with me. We use some of the same products.
However I would look at getting your own bottle to take with you when you go to the gym.
NTA but it sounds like you and she should go to grandma and let her know sister isn’t comfortable sharing shampoo. Grandma will either tell sister she needs to share or agree to get each of you your own bottle.
NTA. 12-year-olds develop all sorts of weird neuroses, this one is not really worth paying attention to. Ask her if she’s uncomfortable sharing toothpaste, since it’s basically the same thing.
Tell your sister that your grandma was the one who said that you could use it, and if she keeps insisting, gently ask her why she doesn’t want you to, I say gently because she’s only 12, and you’re not going to get a reasonable answer if you just ask it in a way where it doesn’t feel like you’re taking her seriously. NTA