Pretty much the title –
I (17F) have made it pretty clear that I don’t want dogs in my room. I own a lot of black clothes and hair gets everywhere, my floor, my clothes, everywhere. Not once have I ever been okay with having dogs in my room . I don’t like dogs, but I’m not like an asshole to my dogs.
If someone comes in my room they know typically to shut the door so a dog doesn’t follow. They follow around my mom (59F) the most. Everytime she comes into my room, she typically shuts the door behind her as to not let any dogs in.
Today my mom comes into my room as I am working on cleaning it. I notice she’s fully in my room and didn’t shut the door, so I just ask her "Can you shut the door so the dogs don’t get in." And she freaks out on me, calls me disrespectful, and snotty. I really don’t see an issue with me asking for the door to be shut.
NTA. Pretty simple. Sounds like mom was power tripping.
NTA. But I cant imagine having dogs in my home and not liking them
I don’t think it’s about not liking the dog. Just not liking the dog in their private space for the reasons given
She is 17 so I don’t think she had much say in the matter
NTA. You can also train your dog to not enter your room. I’d try that since your mom doesn’t want to respect your boundaries. Dogs do respect boundaries if you teach them well.
my boyfriend’s mom is a dog trainer – I will definitely look into this!!!
It’s worth it. I taught mine to tell the difference between his toys and my stuff and the difference with boundaries: always allowed everywhere at home on OUR stuff, never even tried when we went visiting unless he was invited to hop on.
NTA Your mom needs to respect your wishes.
Can you put a gate at your door that allows you to close and open the door but keeps the dogs out?
I suspect it was the tone you used. Get a baby gate for your room. I used to have one when I live with dogs I didn’t like. NAH
NTA. You have a reasonable boundary about dogs in your room that everyone including your mom normally respects. You politely asked her to shut the door like usual and she completely overreacted. Nothing about your request was disrespectful or snotty, sounds like she’s having a bad day and took it out on you
NTA and I dont get why people are saying ‘get a baby gate’ as though somehow it’s too big of a difficulty for a grown woman to shut a door.
Besides, baby gates don’t block hair, they’re not solid and don’t cover the whole opening.
Sometimes it’s not what you say, but how you say it.