My (pretty serious) boyfriend and me are studying together. He has some hand-written lecture notes which he uploaded on his google drive, and when I asked him to share them with me, he let me. The default setting is to let the person you share your documents with as "Editor". He saw this, and then he tried to make me look away as he sneakily put it on "Visualize". I however saw this and was quite shocked. When I confronted him and asked him whether he doesn’t trust me or whatnot, he asked me why I would want to modify it anyways. Now, after a long discussion, he kindly put me as a "Commentator". I’m still not completely satisfied. Shouldn’t I be an editor? Is it okay to be annoyed? Please help me settle this, community. Thanks
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Why do you need to be an editor if you’re only using them to study?
If you want to add to them, copy and paste them into your own doc and add your notes, otherwise this is a ridiculous thing to be annoyed about.
This is incredibly stupid. YTA.
Not sure why this is an AITA question.
They’re his notes. Imagine he gave you the physical handwritten notes, you’ll wouldn’t be able to edit them. So why do you expect to be given the ability to do that on the Google drive version?
Be appreciative he is sharing his notes at all.
This is so confusing to me. Why do you want to be an editor? If the purpose of you seeing these notes is just to look at them, why is it wrong to put you on view-only? I’m going to say NAH because I don’t understand why this matters to you so much.
YTA. It is perfectly normal for someone not to want their own personal notes edited. You’re taking offense where none is intended.
He sees this as an ownership issue, you see it as a trust issue. But ultimately, he’s the one who took the notes, he gets to decide your level of involvement. YTA
Yta, you’re reading way too much into this non-issue. They’re just his notes, they’re important and he’s just sharing them with you to study from- which is kind.
YTA those are his notes. There is no reason for you to edit them. If you want to edit them download them and save them to your own drive and edit away.
YTA
There is absolutely no reason for you to be able to edit HIS notes. Get over yourself.
YTA. These are his notes, that he wrote and he owns, and he’s generously sharing with you. You don’t need to modify them, and this minimizes the risk of you doing it accidentally. (I would perhaps take this as an opportunity to examine why it is feeling like such a big Relationship Trust thing, however.)
This is so weird. YTA
Why would you edit his notes? You just make a copy and do edits if that’s what you wanted?
YTA?? He just doesn’t want any “oops I deleted them while blah blah ing”. Not sure why you’re so pressed
YWBTA if you didn’t let this go. These are his notes and if this is the only place they’re saved and you accidentally deleted or changed something, then there may not be a way to fix it, or it may be a big hassle to fix. I wouldn’t share my notes with anyone and give them editing capabilities for that reason. It’s not about trusting you as his partner, it’s about preserving his work. Why do you even want to be able to edit his notes anyway?
YTA. It’s easy to make accidental changes, and he’s smart to protect his original notes regardless of who is looking at them!