My best friend lives in a town near me and we haven’t seen each other in a while. He got made redundant in October so money was an issue for him.
My girlfriend suggested inviting him to ours for the night then me and him could catch up over some drinks in the apartment, playing my video games and ordering some food.
She said she’d stay at her home to give us chance to catch up in private. This was in November and I suggested it to him but we haven’t had a chance to do it until last weekend as he started a new job at at the beginning of January.
He was supposed to be coming over last Saturday. My girlfriend mentioned that she didn’t really want to stay at her mums so asked me to cancel.
I told her no and pointed out it was her idea. I said she’s obviously free to stay but he’ll still be coming over and we’ll still be doing everything we’ve planned so she’d have to just sit in the bedroom, maybe play on the Nintendo switch and just read etc.
She said no and said it’s not fair but I just reminded her the plans have been made weeks in advance and I’m not going to cancel last minute because she doesn’t feel like staying at her mums.
She said I wasn’t being fair and I should be cancelling if she wants to stay in the apartment.
AITAH for refusing to cancel plans and inviting a friend to stay over?
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So your girlfriend suggested you have your friend over so you can catch up and now your girlfriend is mad because your friend is coming over? Say huh?
Obviously you’re NTA and your girlfriend is ridiculous. Ask her what about it was unfair! So dumb. How old are you guys?
NTA, but this should be posted on r/AITA_Relationships
NTA based on the reply.
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You don’t actually say when you picked the **date**. She suggested inviting him over in November, and you didn’t get time until recently, and the specific day was her problem, not the overall plan.
So when did you tell girlfriend what day he’d be coming?
Her agreeing in principle months ago doesn’t matter if you just told her last night “BTW you’re going to need to clear out tomorrow and go to your mom’s.”
If she has know the date for months, NTA. If the date was recently announced, YTA because she didn’t agree to that specific night when she originally proposed the invite, and should have been involved in scheduling.
She has known for around a month.
NTA then
If she changed her mind, the inconvenience falls on her, not you. You already proposed an alternative.
“Stay at her home”. This isn’t a shared place. She doesn’t get to veto his plans.
Confusingly, OP also referred to “our” place. My reading is that OP and GF live together, and GF was going to go to her mom’s.
NTA. She’s ridiculous.
Stop reposting and or stealing its boring
Why would your gf have to stay in the bedroom? Why can’t she hang out with you and your friend? Don’t you want your friend to meet your gf?
They have met bi the plan is for my friend and I to catchup, not for the three of us to hang out.
YTA for re-posting old AITAH stories