Last week, I (32F) was at a work conference which was in the evening followed by a networking session and dinner.
During the networking session, my partner (40M) texted me but I didn’t reply as I didn’t even see it (he was asking about which weekend in April I was free for a trip) and then he called which I also didn’t see as I was trying to talk to as many people as possible and get their contacts.
I replied with a couple of brief messages about an hour later telling him I’d check my calendar for April and sent him a couple of photos from the event.
I got home about 1am and immediately crashed as it had been a long day (I had been up since 7am). The next day I sent him a cheerful good morning message but he didn’t reply (we usually text a couple of times a day / call every other day). It’s been 6 days now with no response from him so I figure he’s been giving me the cold shoulder for not replying at length and not picking up his call that evening.
For context, we’ve been together 5 years and he has his own business where he also gets really busy at times (but still does make time to reply when he is free).
Idk, AITA for not replying at length / not picking up the call that evening?
You replied an hour after the phone call, and several hours after the text, because you were at a work event which he knew about, and he’s still sulking a week later?
Time to reevaluate your relationship.
NTA
NTA other than putting up with someone who treats you like this.
6 days?? I would have ended it after 1 day 🫣🫣
NTA – seriously, WTF? 6 days?? What is wrong with him?
Ghosting you for a week is sending a clear message he doesn’t really care much about you. This is not the behavior of an emotionally healthy person and you’ll be much better off without him.
He should not be mad, actually, AT ALL. Dragging it out this long is completely unacceptable.
Why are you with a 40 year old child who uses the silent treatment as a weapon instead of being an adult and communicating with you?
Is he usually pissy about something completely normal (aka being BUSY at a conference and networking event)?
Or is it possible that he’s ill or injured?
I think my first choice would be to confirm that he’s OK. And then if he was just being pissy that you didn’t prioritize responding to him immediately, I’d re-evaluate how mature a partner he is.
I’m going to say INFO in case there is another explanation for his silence. Otherwise, n-t-a.
NTA – Even if you were the AH for not replying fast enough (which you aren’t), it’s not cool to hold that over your head for 6 days without a response. Are you sure he’s ok?
What a baby.
6 days of no communication? Have you verified he is ok?
YTA for being 32 and staying with a 40 year old whiney baby that throws temper tantrums
NTA. Thats a pretty comically ridiculous thing to do, especially after 5 years.
Is this normal behavior? It sounds like something might have genuinely happened to him
A grown man giving the silent treatment like a petulant child 🚩🚩🚩
And it’s ridiculous to be upset about you not picking up the call, you were at work!
NTA but you’re an ah to yourself for putting up with this immature and selfish behavior instead of just breaking up with him
So this happened last week, and since you’ve been home he hasn’t been replying to texts? Have you talked about it in person?
YWBTA if you brought the trash that took itself *out back in