I recently found out my wife has been spending hundreds of dollars on in game purchases on her iPhone, $2.99 -$7.99. I was doing her taxes and needed her email, but I saw an Apple receipt for the month of January and decided to take a look. 120$ on a game called tasty travels merge.
She’s out of work due to an injury on the job and is not getting paid, so I’m footing all the bills. So for me to find out for all this time she’s been out of work and not contributing to bills or anything, that she’s spending hundreds on a freemium game has me enraged. AITA?!
Update: I guess I wasn’t clear on our situation. She’s been out of work for a little over 2 months now, she and her work partners neglected to pay the insurance for the company so she does not get workers compensation, I am working between 60-70 hours a week to cover all the bills and we are still on the edge. We are struggling. Her hobby’s include reading, playing her switch and the ps5 which she has dozens of games she hasn’t even started yet, she reads and we have an entire bookshelf of books she has yet to read yet. She is submersed in her hobby’s. These in app purchases are not hobby’s, they are predatory impulsivities.
I’ve talked to her and she agreed, she deleted the apps and said she was going to go back to playing games on her switch.
Depends on your reaction. Being upset is reasonable. Yelling is not. I hope you had a mature conversation with her.
NTA if you talked to her. YWBTA if you talked as enraged as you are right now. If she always did it , while working, maybe she didn’t realize how much it was as a whole. Just talk to her, you’re adults.
(But I totally get your frustration. Its a stupid way to burn resources)
That’s why my wife’s phone is set up to autopay on her card not mine. Grandkids tablets have to be checked every few months because they keep defaulting to one touch purchase for apps.
NTA. You are working 60 hours a week and she’s wasting money you worked hard for on a worthless game.
Is this an ad for tasty travel merge lol
If it were up to me, Apple would ban all fremium games from the market. I tried the game and it’s terrible. It’s super predatory.
“Look at this game you have to spend hundreds of dollars on!”
Yeah, totally an ad. . .
NTA.
You’re covering everything while she’s not working and she’s quietly dropping money on a mobile game. That’s not a small slip, that’s a pattern. This is about trust and shared priorities, not the game itself. You’re right to be upset.
Stupid spending like that on a game while out of a job is a AH move.
NTA. But that depends on how you handle what comes next. It’s understandable to be mad that she’s wasting money like this when finances are tight. If you lose it and go ballistic, YTA. If you have a sensible discussion with her outlining why thats a terrible idea and that from now on any mobile purchases go on her card and not the shared account, then you’d remain NTA.
Yall right, we talked. She apologized and we deleted the apps and she going to go back to playing the dozens of games she has on her switch that she hasn’t touched.
absolutely not the asshole. those games are scams.
play something else. watch tv. read a book. there is plenty of entretainment in the world that is free/costs much less.
NTA. I play free games and never spend amy money at all. Ever. It just requires patience to wait for the extras, the new lives, etc or just let them run their stupid ads. No spend required at all.
NTA.
I would calm down first and then have a conversation based in curiosity.
The amount to me doesnt seem weird, but the fact it was bought while your struggling is weird.
I spend roughly 100-150 on my hobbies every month. My fiance spends roughly the same on Pokémon (his hobby). When I was injured (albeit I had 66% of my pay) I actually spent a little more, and the house was always clean. (Was waiting for a surgery).