ok my birthday is in April (my sweet 16) and Im planning to have it on the 18th, and my birthday is like right near that time which is perfect. but my friend lets call her Jamie, Jamie has her birthday on April 18th. Im planning everything right now because I have to book the reservations and catering. WIBTA if I still had it, or should I change it?
I’m too old for the few amount of words in this post.
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Why are you planning it for that day? Why can’t you use another day?
Edit:
Given the added information, I’d say NAH.
You’re not wrong for planning a party on a day that works well for you.
As long as you understand that you might be forcing mutual friends to pick one or the other if it conflicts with the other person’s plans.
I’d suggest going to that person directly and having an open conversation about their plans and how it might conflict or how they might feel. Be prepared that you might have hurt feelings and need to apologize. Don’t act defensive and argumentative, be open and honest and have empathy.
INFO: What’s an imp age birthday, it’s not your actual birthday? Or you share the same birthdate as your friend?
YTA, 3 months early?
What in the zoomer does this mean?
What in the world are you talking about?
What’s an imp age? What?
If english isn’t your first language, please get someone competent in it to translate this for you
Is it your birthday or not? I don’t understand having a party 3 months prior.
You do not need to hold your birthday party 3 months ahead of your birthday and you can’t tell me there isn’t a single other date in 3 months that would work. If you go ahead with it now knowing it’s on your friend’s birthday, YWBTA for sure
hae your birthday party on YOUR birthday.. no problem
I’m laughing so much because you’re obviously very young and don’t understand that most of us here are older and don’t understand all the abbreviations.
Anyways,
YWBTA if they’re close enough that they would be invited.
If it’s just someone from your class, I think it wouldn’t matter as much.
If it’s many months apart from your bday anyway, choosing another date might be annoying but it wouldn’t be the end of the world for you, where as, a friend choosing to have a bday party on YOUR bday even though it’s not even remotely close to their real bday is very fcked up.
In the nicest way you would be the asshole, if this is something you can’t change like the date is set in stone for your party on your friends birthday, a good friend would include her, maybe turn it from a very late birthday party for just you to a conjoined event for both. I think this is just a conversation to have with her directly, I mean we could all call you an asshole while she may not even care. The “right” thing to do would just be to speak to her about it and include her in it if she cares since it is her legitimate birthday and not yours and you guys are suppose to be friends.
You should provide us with dates cause this is a mess.
Also how did you not know it was your friend’s bday that day? Come on
NAH.
If I understand correctly, you’re planning your own 16th birthday party on a date in a few months that is close to your actual birthday, but happens to be on a school friends actual birthday. No, she doesn’t have a better claim to the date.
In general, it is common to have parties on the weekends, so if your birthday is within a week of the date you picked, that’s to be expected. Apparently this school friend isn’t a very close friend to you, if your birthdays are so close but you didn’t know. In other words, you’ve never been to each other’s birthday parties, right?
I’m assuming it will also be her “sweet sixteen” and she may or may not also be planning to have a party on HER birthday. You obviously have at least one friend in common, so the issue is going to be, what guests are you possibly going to lose to her party? (Assuming she has one–not every teen is self-centered enough to throw a party for themselves.).
NOTE: If she has already started HER plans/invites, and you then decided to try to hijack her birthday, that would make you an extreme AH.
YTA – Everyone gets one birthday a year. ONE. If you care about your friend’s feelings, you’d celebrate them on their birthday, and your own on your… actual birthday. You know what, you do you but I can’t imagine possessing this level of self-absorption at age 16.
If I understand correctly then you’ve booked a hall and stuff for your birthday in 3 months, but the exact date of the party is not on your birthday (but I assume close to it). But the date of your party is on another friend’s birthday.
If that is the situation it depends on how well you know this friend. If you are close and should have known its their’s then that’s an AH move, especially if you wanted to invite them. If you aren’t that close and weren’t planning on inviting them then it’s unfortunate but c’est la vie, everyday is someone’s birthday.
If you are going to invite them then I would really decide if that’s the day you want to do it. If it is, then you should speak to that friend and let them know you feel terrible but couldn’t find anything else that worked and understand if they can’t come.
NTA but if you can, I would talk to that friend and see if you can find another date
Before asking the internet this question, you need to *check with Jamie!* She might not even have an issue with it. Or if she does, perhaps the two of you can come to a compromise. If not, then *that’s* when it’s reasonable to post on here asking for opinions and advice.