For more context, I just had to drive 5-6 hours yesterday, total, to get back and forth between my dad’s house, which already sucks. The guitar was actually my younger brother’s guitar first, for literal years, and was then gifted to my even younger sister, on her birthday. My dad decided to message me last night, after getting home, telling me that I better bring back the guitar and the case, and I should’ve double checked with her to make sure it was okay.
My dad is a drunk. He says and does a lot of things without making sure that it’s okay with other people, especially his kids. My little brother told me that, even though he wasn’t playing it, at the time, he actually wanted to, and the decision was made for him. My little brother is old enough to drink and had the guitar since Jr. High. My little sister hasn’t had the guitar for barely a year, because my little brother didn’t want to drive a few hours, just for a guitar. She’s also turning 14 this year and has a brand new, and in a lot better condition, guitar.
My little sister is destructive, via being VERY clumsy. She scratched the top of my TV with paint from a door seal, she’s dented in a pot, because she left the handle facing out towards the kitchen, and my little brother’s guitar has a few different new marks and spots on it, that were definitely not there before.
So, it’s not just the fact that I don’t want to drive, it’s the fact that, my dad tends to be an asshole when he gets drunk and my sister doesn’t exactly take care of anything, even if it’s worth a lot of money. My little brother feels like he got gypped, as well, and I honestly agree. I really don’t want to take back the guitar and case, for quite a few reasons.
Edit: My little brother, the actual owner of the guitar, let me know that he wants to keep it. It is currently in his possession. My dad texted me, because I am the one with the vehicle, therefore, I would be the one to bring it back.
I’m confused; you did what exactly?
You went and took your sister’s guitar because your brother asked you to? Without her permission?
Regardless of whether it was given with or without your brother’s consent, it’s not okay for you to go and steal it.
The guitar in question was the OPs brother in the first place.
INFO: So this story was told incredibly out of order with a ton of skipped over important details. If I understand correctly:
Guitar was your brothers and gifted by your dad to your sister without asking him
You drove to get guitar, he said it was cool but you did not ask your sister
You were getting it back for your brother who wanted it?
I lived this life. Ignore your dad, He will forget or he won’t. Keep the guitar. Limit your time near them.
This is hard to judge because you leave out information about where you are, where the guitar is, why you were driving back and forth? It sounds like the guitar moved locations recently, but maybe it didn’t? Then you end off with a slur based on stereotypes of a group of people.
I think ESH. Your dad shouldn’t have given away your brother’s guitar, but you shouldn’t really be getting involved at all. It’s between your brother, dad, and sister. Give the guitar to your brother and if he wants to fight with your dad to keep it, that’s up to him. You shouldn’t not have it in your possession since it is not, and never was, yours.
So basically a whole family of assholes, competing for the prize? You didn’t indicate who (if anyone) actually knows how to play guitar, is in a band, or is taking lessons?
What kind of guitar is this that you burned a tank of gas for? You know you can buy these things anywhere for about the price of 3 tanks of gas?
Didn’t dad and sis notice you in the trailer or did you break in while they were gone?
This smells like a white trash on white trash crime spree. Did any of you actually purchase said guitar or should the police start searching for the actual owner.
How are you the avenging angel in this story? Dad and the littles have a squabble so you stepped in and took the prize?
So your Dad gave away your brother’s guitar to your sister without his permission, your brother asked you to drive him to Dad as Sister’s house to retrieve the guitar. You drove him. He retrieved his stolen guitar, and Dad is mad because he had given the stolen guitar to the sister as a birthday present and now she’s upset because the real owner of the item that wasn’t his to gift has taken it back?
Your Dad is mad at you because you were the driver, and wants you to steal the guitar back off your brother to give back to your sister, who isn’t going to take care of it and doesn’t need it because she already has a newer guitar to play?
NTA, and it sounds like you need to go low or no contact with your drunken Dad.
Also, Is your younger sister really clumsy and breaking her stuff, or is her stuff getting broken by the drunk Dad that is meant to be taking care of her? If she is still a child, perhaps consider whether she is in a safe home situation, considering what you saw of the house and her living situation when you briefly visited with your brother to help him retrieve his guitar.
So you have returned stolen property to your brother. And now your father wants to steal a guitar that was never his to give to another child when it was never his in the first place. NTA. Sisters out of luck, but should have been old enough to say no to big brothers property. And dad is the A.
If your father is a drunk, he has zero credibility or credibility as an authority figure.
Ignore him and tell your sister to stop wanting other people’s things.
I would step back, be supportive of your brother and be firm with your sister.
Families with alcoholism do not have the same rules.
Lean on someone who leans on a bottle and you fall over.
ESH It is NOT YOUR GUITAR. The way you told this story sounds like you are drunk tbh. But whoever is the rightful owner of the guitar is the one who should have it. You should NEVER have gotten involved in the first place. This was. Between your brother, father, and sister.
ESH
Him because it’s ridiculous for him to expect you to do the long drive
And you because the majority of the information in this post is irrelevant. Your sister being clumsy is irrelevant if it’s HER guitar. If it’s hers, whether she’s too irresponsible for it is none of your business. If the guitar belongs to the brother, just send it back and let them handle it but if it’s not yours then don’t keep or worry about it.
Your dad and brother’s attitude are also irrelevant to this story, only thing that matters is who the guitar belongs to. I say you should just try to mail it back and have them pay for shipping.