I(18F) live with my dad(65M), his wife(38F), and my two brothers(16+20M).
I have quite a few pets that take up much of my time, I am currently studying for veterinary medicine and I’m going to be enrolled in college in the fall. I also babysit and pet sit on the side to make money but haven’t been able to for a while (my dad got a new car for me that will take another month to be transferred to him so I can’t drive right now).
For some extra context, I hate leaving my room since my older brother is a really bad person and did bad stuff to me and my younger brother that my dad knows about but he still lets him stay. I also have fibromyalgia and gastroparesis so I’m constantly nauseous and in pain but I work through it and do the best I can. I also have autism, so I’m not the best at figuring out social things a lot of the time.
So, for tonight: my dad asked me if I could feed his wife and his dogs, and I didn’t see the message until 30 minutes later so I said: “Sorry I didn’t see this text do you think she has done it already?” To which he replied, “Yeah if she is home I’m sure she fed them. Maybe plan on doing it Tuesday and Wednesday for her?” So I said, “Yeah I will if I have time.” Then, he said “Well don’t worry about it then. She can do it when she gets home. She just needs to know if it’s done or going to be done when she gets home, if there is a chance you can’t do it, it’s better to just let her do it.”
I feel bad but I honestly don’t know if I’ll have the time so I said “okay then”. He came home tonight and was in a huffy mood, and ended up telling me “It just would’ve been nice of you to do it. We do so much for you. But I guess you’re just.. so busy and you don’t have time so it’s fine.” Again, I just said “okay.”
He and his wife have been ignoring me for a few hours now, like literally ignoring me and the things I say. I tried to talk about my animals and how they’re doing on their meds(my rats have a uri and my cat has a uti), and they walked away from me.
Am I really that bad for not feeding them? Should I just suck it up and make myself make time? Just overall, am I the asshole?
Not enough info – do you pay rent to live there? Or do you live there for free? If you’re living there for free, I agree it wouldn’t be too much to feed the if asked once or twice.
Im sorry about your brother, and i think youre totally valid for not wanting to be around him. Have you talked to your dad and step mom?
If you’re this uncomfortable in your own home, can you move out? (It’s expensive out there no I don’t blame you for wanting to stay home and live home).
Having health stuff certainly doesn’t help so I’m sorry. This sounds like a really crappy situation but not enough info.
It sounds like you aren’t in college yet and don’t work so yeah, yta.
Yep yta