AITA Stay with me it might get a little crazy and confusing. I, 50F am the proud grandmother (Honnie) to a 6 yr old little boy. My daughter lost custody of him when he was 3 months old. But the details to that’s for another time. CPS placed him with my mother and my older brother and his family who lived with her then. I lived out of state and wasn’t financially stable. A year later my mother adopted him. So legally he’s now my little brother. A year later my older brother his partner of 30 plus years and there adult daughter moved out of my mom’s and took my grandson/brother with them. Threatened my mom with CPS because of her age and health plus she was an alcoholic. Within a few months mom suffered a stroke which she needed round the clock care. So I moved in a cared for her for year and a half till she passed Sept 2023. In her will she left everything to her 2 son’s. She left me her love. My brother/partner told me I needed to go to her lawyers and sign papers that I was her daughter because that mixed mine and brothers/partner names up. I was grieving and not in right mind didnt read what i was signing.It was actually giving up my right to fight in probate. Then he evicted me July 2024 from her home. Which was 2 driveways from his home. My grandson/ brother and i had became extremely attached to each other. Always together. To barely getting to see him. A month after grandson 5th birthday my older brother suddenly unexpectedly passed away March 2025. My car was stolen I lost my job was homeless all this time. They wouldnt allow me to stay with them. Moms house empty. Fast forward to now. I am currently living with brothers/partner (whom my grandson calls mom and was calling my brother dad when he passed) she is extremely sick in and out of hospital. Her adult daughter/boyfriend and there 17 month old son. And my grandson that I love more than anything. The daughter and boyfriend both have full time jobs. Need a babysitter cool right. So they decide without discussing it with me they would pay me 15 dollars to babysit the 17 month old. Of course I have my grandson all the time don’t want or expect to get paid for him. And the way there schedule are I only get paid for 3 maybe 4 days a week. But have him more than that even when there home. And I’m now the full time maid. Nobody and I mean nobody picks up or cleans up except me. Nobody pulls trash will wash a dish or even pick up a piece of paper off the floor makes huge messed and leaves it. I left there messes for days. Till I can’t take it anymore. Because I will not let these babies nor myself live in filth. I mean I understand I’m living here free but I do not have my own room or space. I’m stuck in this house 24/7 for weeks at a time. 24/7 maid and babysitter. But only make 45 dollars a week 60 if I’m lucky.
Go to a Legal Aid office and find out if there’s anything they can do for you. Good luck.
NTA, but be careful. You’re in a situation where you’re not the one in power.
I mean…they both work full time and took in a child that wasn’t theirs so he could live a somewhat normal life and they took you in from being homeless? Do you pay rent? Because they may be slobs and maybe you should talk to them about that but it doesn’t really sound like they’re being inhumane towards you or anything. I mean you called yourself a babysitter but they’re literally taking in your grandchild. It sort of sounds like you all took in this kid together and they’re working to pay the bills while expecting you to take care of the house. They should be a little bit more clean about it, but it doesn’t again sound like you’re getting a bad deal here if you were homeless before.
I don’t know. This does sound like either a ESH or NAH. Just a bunch of people trying to make their best out of a bad situation.
When someone “helps” you out by giving you a place to live , it DOESNT give them the right to take advantage of though. What she is saying is she is the ONLY one cleaning in a home of 4 adults and 1 (at least) child, on top of being the child care for the 5 yo all the time. Never getting to leave the house and being paid 55 a week is CRAZY because childcare is wildly expensive. If they paid her as they should, she could probably pay to be there and would have more than what they are paying her left over. It sounds like she’s getting an amazing deal BUT in reality, they are getting a maid and childcare 24/7 for 55 dollars a week!!! That’s really them taking advantage of her situation.
Why would CPS let a woman who was at least, 68 and a drunk, adopt a child under five? And that adoption took only a year? Yeah, ok color me skeptical. Then after a few more untimely passings, your brother/grandson’s now guardian pays you 15 dollars a day to babysit her toddler and clean? Contact CPS. I hope they do a better job sorting things out this time.