Hi I’m from a private school. I have this friend let’s call him Clark. Now Clark is pretty popular among my peers. I met him in way before high-school, we met each other since he needed colors for an art project, and of course I gave him since I’m a good guy. After art class he offered to become my friend, so I gladly accepted.
Fast forward a couple years. We are now both in high-school and we hang out sometimes because he is a basketball varsity and he doesn’t have a lot of time. One Tuesday I had to do a make-up task for math and he also needed to do that. Once we arrived in the conference we did our task. 5 minutes passes and Clark asks "hey op can you give me some answers so I can Ace this. Obviously I asked "why do you need help, didn’t u study?" Clark replied "come on bro just give me it, we’re friends right? I kept declining his offer to give my answers to Clark.
Once I finished my make-up task, I was going to leave before Clark pulled me back saying "Op just give me the answers, I don’t want to get scolded by my parents for this. Instead of giving the answers I just left him in the conference. So far we haven’t talked since then. I’m assuming he failed. AIMTA?
NTA, but to clarify, is this task a test? Are you allowed to share answers? If not what is the consequence for getting caught?
This could be “hey guy, do something totally allowed that would be a really nice thing to do for me”, which you don’t have to do, or “hey guy, **risk tanking your future for me**” which you shouldn’t do.
This task is a test. Ur not allowed to share answers. U would get a slip and that gets your grades to a B or lower.
Then absolutely don’t do that, and it is really shitty of him to even ask.
NTA, I know it might feel like you were the asshole, but in most schools if they discover you cheated, you both get instant 0s on the test or for the entire class. But yet again, I’m not entirely sure since this is really a dilemma
NTA. Quite the opposite.
The easiest way to tank your future is to get caught cheating.
The easiest way to get caught is for the two of you to provide the same wrong answer.
You made the right call – including for your friend. A bad test result is nothing compared to being caught cheating.
The easiest way to avoid being caught cheating is to not cheat in the first place.
It would be unethical and dishonorable to give answers. Keep to your moral compass. NTA
NTA, imho you can help study But not on the actual test. You passed the integrity test 100%
NTA. If you were allowed to work cooperatively or share information, you would have been told that from the start. Cheating at most schools can carry penalties up to suspension or expulsion, and Clark’s acting pretty entitled IMHO by not studying and just expecting you to give him answers. However (and I hate to say it), I’d be prepared for him to try to turn people against you.
NTA.
It sounds like Clark may be a friend of convenience; if you can’t do something for him, you’re not a part of his world. If he cuts you off, you’re better off without him. Cheating is a good way to screw up your grades.
NTA.
The best way to test if you were being a friend is by asking yourself if this guy was being a friend to you. It’s a waste of time measuring yourself by standards he wants to impose on you. Measure yourself by the standards you want to live by.
NTA
Sometimes doing the right thing doesn’t feel great. If you helped him cheat and you get caught, you get a 0 on the test. What’s it matter to him if he gets a 0, he was already going to be there if it weren’t for you.
Pay attention to how this effects your relationship with him for the rest of the year and into next year. If it’s strained or he keeps mentioning this one time that you didn’t help him; then that could mean that he sees the value of your friendship only as much as what he can get out of it.