This all happened a while ago but I still think about it weekly. For context I was apart of a small friend group between 4 people which includes M, D, K, and me. This was also in middle school (I know middle school drama so interesting). Anyway M was in ways a bad kid, they would vape, smoke, etc. Now looking back they were kind of a manipulator, they would go back on their words a lot for no reason and just stupid stuff like that. I’m not friends with them for obvious reasons but I am with D, and K. So basically what happen was D came into our shared science class crying and I had no idea what happens because she didn’t want to talk so I didn’t push. Later she told me that M had posted somthing on our schools confession page(I forget what it was but it was essentially calling her fat and stuff). Eventually all that died down and fast forward a year later to mid/late freshman year and M messages out of the blue. I had stopped talking to them a couple months after she made D cry. It started out friendly just asking how I was and stuff but later they started to talk about how they were in the mental hospital and like basically trauma dumping on me. I would try and change the subject but it was like that’s all they wanted to talk about. Eventually I asked why they messaged me and they said that they just needed someone to talk to. So I told them that I didn’t want to be friends with them because of what happened with D, and they basically just denied it. I had screenshots so I sent them to them (idk how to post pictures on here but if I figure it out I will, but basically it was them saying that they hated and despised D simply for her looking at their profile) they said that that was them but they had the right to be upset because D lied to them (I don’t think that’s true D isn’t like that but I could be wrong). Anyway M has lied about stuff before I wouldn’t put it past them to lie again but I could be in the wrong. This is so immature but I just can’t stop thinking about it so AMTI?
You’re not the asshole.
What’s probably bothering you isn’t the drama itself, it’s the way they denied it and tried to act like nothing happened. That kind of revisionist energy sticks with you.
You handled it fine. They reached out. They trauma dumped. You were honest about why you didn’t want to be friends. When they denied what they did, you showed proof. That’s not immature, that’s setting a boundary.
The doubt you’re feeling is normal. When someone confidently rewrites events, it can make you second guess yourself. But even with “more context,” publicly insulting someone and then refusing to own it is enough to step away.
You don’t need airtight proof to decide someone isn’t good for you. It’s okay that it still crosses your mind. It just means it never really felt resolved.