For context, my family lost my youngest brother last year in June. I’ve never lost a sibling before and it pretty much shattered our entire family. He was the youngest, but also struggled with alcoholism and substance abuse.
Having never lost a sibling, the impact was pretty hard on us all. I also want to stress that in our family dynamic and culture; therapy, asking for help, being vulnerable, isn’t really a thing.
I’ve been in therapy over 5 years, and after my brother’s passing, was the only one that sought out a grief counselor in addition to my therapist. It’s helped me personality, and I’ve tried to share with my siblings how much it’s helped in the hopes that they would seek help too, but I feel like I’ve done this several times and I’m just met with a "I don’t need to talk to anybody, I’ll handle it on my own"
My brother has been using my sister in law as a resource, as has my sister.
This morning my sister called me to share a song that my brother sent her, and the lyrics were pretty tough to hear, and reminded me of my younger brother, so I asked her to stop playing it. She said that my older brother sent it to her and that she told him "why are you sending things to me when you feel bad and remind you of him" and I just stopped for a second and said "you both need someone to talk to, I’ve tried to help you both by recommending someone, but I am not a grief counselor, and can’t help you"
My sister texted me that she won’t say anything else about it to me, and I kind of feel bad.
AITA?