Hello, this has been on my mind for awhile now and I just want to know of I’d be TA if I do this. So I (M26) have been driving for almost 2 years now and I enjoy it every here and there.
So of course after I got my first car, I was excited and often told friends and family if they ever need a ride somewhere to contact me. Now for the first months of me driving, I had no problem going out of my way to give a ride to and from somewhere. Now the issue is lately my sister Cindy (40F) and my nieces Sarah (17F) and Linda (11F) have almost always contact me for a ride to wherever they need to and it has started to become too much. There are times I really just want to rest and not go anywhere. At first, I saw it as getting to spend time with family because after the passing of my mother two years ago and the passing of our father 4 years ago, I haven’t been around family much and I wanted to change that. The problem is that as of late, it doesn’t feel like spending time together and more like I’m just there for a free ride.
An example of this is prior to me having a car, I was never aware of any family events or functions; but when I got my car and have the ability to go to these functions, I end up attending as like a proxy to my sister and nieces. Today, I was asked by Sarah to bring her, Cindy, and Linda to Sarah’s performance. I wasn’t aware of this until I was asked for a ride to and from and only then Sarah says "you can come too".
This has been on my mind for a long time. I thought these rides would be good bonding with my sister and nieces but lately it feels like I only get a call or a text for a ride somewhere. So WIBTA if I start limiting the amount of rides I give?