Hey all so last night was very strange for me. I was driving my best friend home and I made the mistake of bringing up how she tends to scream at people in the bar. I realize this was not a good idea. She then promptly flips TF out in a drunken rage and ask to get out and walk home. It is 4:00am, we’re several miles from her house, it’s a bad neighborhood, she’s drunk and also whacked out on cocaine. Obviously I’m concerned about getting her home safe so I don’t just let her get out and walk. I try to calm the situation and say I’m making sure she gets home safe. She then promptly tries to make me out to be predatory for not pulling over and letting her walk. Then she decides it’s a great idea to try to fling herself out while we’re going 40mph. I managed to not let that happen just barely. When we got close to her street I let her out. My question is, should I have seriously just let her out to walk home?
NTA. Just reading the intro says enough.
NTA. You were protecting her and possibly saved her life. But if she has been this out of control before, then you need to reconsider your friendship. If this is the 1st time, then maybe have a serious conversation and see if she apologizes. If not, then never go clubbing with her again. You do not need that drama in your life.
Sure but OP is a jackass too. Who- in their right mind – would have a conversation about a drunk person’s behaviour while they are drunk?
NTA but slightly concerned that this is even a question
Well like I said they were seriously trying to make me out as predatory for not just letting them out so I legitimately needed to just ask 🤣
NTA but if this is normal behaviour from her, I’d really reconsider the friendship. This is the sort of person that will only drag you down.
NTA,your protected from like 17 different things like road rash,tbi,confusion,inbalanced walking/stumbling,anger issues/violence,etc
Im torn between ESA and NAH. You probably shouldn’t have brought that up at that point, since she was in no state to listen to it reasonably, but you did the right thing by not letting her out. She’s the AH for flipping out like that, but she was also wasted and high as a kite.
NTA you were a good friend, and I would follow up with her in like a day or two (once she has time to get past the booze and hangover) just a calm text that you were disappointed in her behavior in your car, she made things dangerous and she’ll need to take an Uber next time instead of you driving her unless she controls her consumption more to not get so volitile. If she doesn’t acknowledge that, apologize and say she’ll do better, then it’s Ubers from here on out.
NTA, i would not want to spend time with a “friend” like that; likely to get you into dangerous situations.
So when she’s drunk and high is a good time to bring up her behavior. Wow. Clearly you both need to work on your interpersonal skills. ESH. You for not waiting until she’d be able to have a coherent conversation and remember it. Her for the obvious reasons. Not sure why you give credence to her accusation of being predatory when she also thought jumping out of a moving car was also a good idea. Clearly her judgement was heavily impaired.
For safety though if you drive her while drunk again she rides in the back. If you have child locks keep them on. Don’t risk your own safety by letting her interfere with your driving now that you know what she’s willing to do (at least when drunk/high).
NTA. Alcohol, cocaine, anger issues, and false accusations add up to her not being a very good friend nor a very good person to associate with if you like a quiet life.
NTA. Next time, let her out and call the police to escort her home. Drunk and high ought to go well. She can dry out in the drunk tank overnight and deal with her drug and public intox charges.