Like we both are medical student doing our MBBS, and I’m a extrovert 21M and she is a 23F introvert person, I am kind of materialistic in some situations, I usually busy her gifts like 4-5 times a month and mostly I pay on restaurants but when I found out something cool on internet and want to buy it, I usually asks her for 4k₹ to 5k₹(60$-80$)[it’s like mediocre ammount range in Indian states]per month because as I told you I’m a extrovert guy so usually go out a lot with my friends and professors so I can’t save money and after asking from her I feel so guilty and I can’t control my heart too for buying materialistic items like blue tokai coffee some random aesthetic table lamp and sometimes for alcohol too so am I the asshole?
You want her to give you 5 grand *a month*?
I’m inclined to believe that this is bait, but in the very slim chance that it isn’t – yes, obviously YTA.
She’s your partner not your ATM.
If your income doesn’t match your intended lifestyle you have to change your buying habits.
YTA
and being an extrovert has nothing to do with anything.
I am an extrovert too and if **I don’t have the money I don’t buy the thing**. It’s an incredibly easy formula.
Just simply cut back on going out? Being an extrovert does not mean you HAVE to go out and spend money. It has nothing to do with being an extrovert, you just suck with money and expect her to pick up the slack. Just simply work on being better at financial decisions and stop making excuses for it. She shouldn’t have to bail you out of the consequences of your bad financial choices every month. Hard YTA. You’re an adult. Start acting like it.
YTA. Mostly for implying extroverts are irresponsible spendthrifts that just can’t help themselves. It’s just you that lacks control and you better start working on that now.
YTA. It’s not her responsibility to make up for your lack of financial self control
therapy
YTA for not learning to live within your means. Stop using your partner to pay for extra things you can’t afford. Grow up and learn to save.
If you feel guilty every time you ask, that’s your conscience telling you this isn’t sustainable.
I think this post was to boast about how much YTA tbh
You need to learn how to live within your income, and learn how to save for the future. With all that spending, there is no reason for you to have needed money from your GF if you behaved like an adult. Time to grow up!
YTA. “I go out so I can’t save” yes you can. Don’t go out as much. Don’t spend as much when you’re out. Don’t buy every cool lamp you see. It sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do
YTA. You need to learn to live within your means. If you’re constantly short on money and have to ask to borrow money, either buy your girlfriend fewer gifts or give up on some luxuries. This is a really important lesson to learn.
YTA
She’s not your ATM.
It’s not her fault you can’t live within your means.
If you can’t afford things, don’t buy them and don’t mooch off your girlfriend.