ok this is probably such a minuscule problems for yall on here but I recently went to university in September and have had such a great time and made many new friends. I moved from my city to london and it kind of helped me escape the bubble i was in. All of my friends from my city went to uni there with two being on the same course at the same university (there’s 4 of them).
Sometime in November one of my friends from uni said i should make a spam page and i thought it would be fun so i went ahead and added my uni friends and my hometown friends (like 11 people in total). Now my hometown friends never really interact with it at all but always view my stories and it makes me feel weird especially because i know they’re very judgmental and they also haven’t contacted me since like September. Also they’re very religious while i’m not at all (three of them are muslim).
One of them literally always views my stories but has never liked anything or replied or anything so i removed her and she texted me on main saying why did you remove me and i answered honestly and light hearted saying ‘you literally never interact’ to which she didn’t reply. Now to add context when i went home in December i suggested we go out to which nobody replied for a few days and then they seemed quite reluctant saying they’re busy (which i get) but i’m there for a month.
I ended up feeling really lonely over break and down and once i got back to London they posted like a week later with all of them hanging out. It felt like i was begging for their company. Today, i go in insta and another friend has made a spam page and not added me which is weird because i thought we were close and she’s the only one i met up with since ive been at uni and all my other ‘friends’ are on there. This has me thinking that they’re all shit talking me and i’m quite a paranoid person but i don’t think this is an insane assumption . I don’t have any other friends in my home city and going back feels so lonely especially because my uni friends all got friends back home.
AITA? any advice is welcome
She’s watching your posts. Staying involved in what you’re up to. You can remove anyone for any reason, but simply because they didn’t click a like button or comment, that’s childish. And the not being included, it’s almost like you can feel the same thing your friend felt. Advice: best to apologize. Idk what you’d say, since you only removed the one and not the others that don’t interact.
as a girl who also has an insta spam, and is a freshmen in college, BRO THE PARANOIA IS REAL… why do we do this to ourselves </3
i think some older people might not get it, but as girls you can kinda just tell when things are off or when people are talking about you, or purposefully not adding you to their story or whatever. heres my advice:
1) as a rule of thumb, ik its hard but this is what works for me and my spam, just try not to care what other people say/think or interact w ur post. if you really only want close friends in there, keep it to your close friends and remove whoever you want. but try not to overthink it just because some people aren’t as interactive. for my spam i basically just accept anyone who ik won’t judge me or care about what i post- even if im not super close to them because i just learned that idrc and imma post whatever i want. they can leave if they dont wanna see it, they can make fun of it if they want, whatever.
2) talk to your friends! even if their fake and u dont wanna be friends w them anymore, its good to atleast have a conclusion. tell your friends why you removed that girl honestly, and tell them how you are currently feeling and ask them if they’re upset at you for anything else. hopefully if their not fake, u guys can understand eachother and talk it out. but if not- then atleast you tried and you can walk away from the friendship knowing you did your part.
wishing you luck girlie!
tysmm for the advice i think im going to try and contact. for me the spam was kind of a way to include them into my life since they’re all together and they haven’t contacted me at all (tbf neither had I) but it kind of defeats the purpose when they didn’t interact. Anyways i probably did overreact but im going to just try and explain myself. thx for the advice <3