I rent a room from a couple in their 30s and have lived with them for about a year. When I moved in, I told them I like a clean and tidy space and that I was happy to take on more of the cleaning because it matters to me. I specifically said they didn’t have to change their habits for me.
At first, things felt pretty normal. But over the last few months, they’ve basically stopped contributing to the shared spaces entirely. They don’t vacuum or mop (except their bedroom), they leave dishes out instead of putting them away, and I’m the only one washing communal items like dishcloths and towels. Coming home to a dirty kitchen everyday is mentally effecting me (they don’t wipe benches after cooking).
The bathroom situation is what’s pushed me over the edge. They regularly leave visible streaks in the toilet after using it, and I’ve come home to find poop floating in the toilet more than once.
We get along fine otherwise, and I do like them, but I’m starting to feel like I accidentally volunteered to be their live-in cleaner. I never agreed to take responsibility for basic adult hygiene. One of them can also get pretty nasty or defensive during disagreements, which is part of why I’ve avoided saying anything.
I’m at the point where I want to stop cleaning anything that isn’t directly mine and tell them I won’t keep living like this. Part of me worries that I am being unreasonable and that we all have different standards, but another part of me thinks they’re taking advantage.
AITA if I stop cleaning shared areas and confront them about the toilet situation?