My cat has bowel issues+anxiety and sometimes has to run to the litter box if she’s not feeling well. She’s been to the vet and is on a special diet and meds, but she was a stray and has anxiety which can lead to diarrhea
This happened before when I moved her to the apartment and she pooped in the cage before I could get her litter box all set up and it was a mess
Her litter box is in the bathroom because her poop can smell really bad. I tried keeping it in my room at first but it was making my room smell and we agreed to move it. My roommate takes really long showers and i’ve asked her to try and shower with the door cracked for the cat and I wouldn’t look or try to take quicker showers. She said she’s uncomfortable with that which I understand and says she just likes to feel clean/needs to shave and wash her face too. She showers daily and it’s like 30 mins one day an hour the next alternating
She said I could move the litter box outside while she showers which I tried but my cat was anxious of the sudden switch and i saw later she had peed on the floor
Today my apartment had the fire alarm go off and she wasn’t happy at all but handled it better than I thought. She hid after we back but then I thought she was fine
Like an hour later my roommate says she’s going to shower, this is during her 1+ hour days so i’m like oh shit ok. It is annoying but I can’t force her to stop and i’m graduating and moving out at the end of this year anyway
20 mins into her shower my cat got up and walked over to the bathroom door and started meowing and pawing to get in. I knocked on the door and got no response, I knocked louder and yelled she needed to use the bathroom could I let her in. My roommate said she’d be out in 5 mins which I knew probably wasn’t true but waited then knocked again. She yelled she was still shaving to give her a sec and then my cat started meowing louder and I heard her stomach gurgle and she farted. She started pawing slower and I was afraid she’d run away to poop on the floor or on herself. I tried to wait another minute but her stomach gurgled again and I could tell she was getting really stressed so I said fuck it and yelled i’m letting her in and she ran inside. We don’t bother locking the door when we shower bc we know neither person would walk in on each other.
My roommate screamed and I said sorry it was an emergency and then I shut the door and heard her yelling about how bad it smelled and coughing. I cracked the door again to let my cat out when i heard her scratching and my roommate yelled i can’t believe you did that wtf i’m showering.
The rest of the night she didn’t talk to me and texted saying next time move the litter box I was naked and that was gross to smell/hear. I said last time I tried that she peed on the floor and I didn’t see anything and just cracked the door, she said well train her to figure it out or get a second box in my room. Ik she’s just mad rn but i still feel bad for making her uncomfortable.
YTA. This is your cat and you need to figure out a better solution. It’s not your cat’s fault they have bowel issues. Your roommate is not being an asshole for wanting that time to unwind.
You need two litter boxes. Both enclosed. Your roommate should not have you opening the door when she’s naked and wants privacy. Nor should she have to deal with a litter box and all that comes with it. That smell in a steamy small room would be foul.
Get another litter box, put it in your room. It’s your cat.
Yes YTA. You don’t want the litter box in YOUR room because it smells bad but you want her to smell hot and humid cat shit and it’s YOUR cat. She was showering. She takes long showers and you’re worried about the cat? Too bad put your cats litter box in your room.. Yta and beyond entitled.
YTA this is bonkers. You said you moved the litter box because it smells bad I genuinely am surprised that your roommate was cool with you moving it to a communal area in the first place. Get another litter box for your room or something. Honestly this is appalling and I would be disgusted if someone let a cat in to take a fat shit while I was in the middle of showering.
It kind of sounds like the litter box needs to be moved back to your room. You tried the bathroom, it isn’t working out, try something else. If smell is an issue, try a different litter, cleaning more often, air purifier, not sure.
YTA. Get another covered liter box. Your roommate should be able to shower in peace.
You think the problem is invasion of privacy. That’s not it. It’s that she doesn’t want to be in the bathroom with fresh nasty cat poop. Smells are more intense in a high humidity environment like a shower.
YTA. Find a reasonable solution, that is your job as the cat owner. Doing what you want despite your roommate’s objections is not a solution.
YTA. It’s your cat, not hers. Do you not have a second litter box? Because it’s my understanding that you should have one litter box per cat plus an extra one. You could put the second litter box in your room or in the living room or something.
YTA. Your cat, your responsibility. If your cat can only shit in one place get used to smelling it in your room. Your roommate deserves to shower in privacy.
YTA. Why on Earth should your roommate have to be trapped in the shower, with the humid, hot air, while your cat takes a shit. You need to figure it out. You don’t want the litter box in your room because it smells bad, but you are perfectly fine subjecting your roommate to it in an enclosed space.
mild YTA. in this situation yes it was the only option. however, she is correct about the 2nd litter box. your cat should have 2 in case there are obstacles to get to their primary one. many vets recommend that. but your roommate deserves to shower without the smell of cat shit.
Keep the litter box in your bedroom. Period. It’s not her cat and she doesn’t have to deal with the stinky poop while she’s showering. You should understand that the bathroom is a shared space. Also, you can get an electric litter box. But keep it in your room.
“Her litter box is in the bathroom because her poop can smell really bad. I tried keeping it in my room at first but it was making my room smell and we agreed to move it”
I can’t believe you typed that and are still asking if you are the AH.
Here’s a couple of solutions (as a cat owner):
1) put a litter box in your room & keep the one in the bathroom
2) scoop as soon as poo happens and take out trash immediately
3) apologize to your roommate
YTA
This is a known issue, the litterbox should be in a you space not a communal space.
You literally moved it out of your bedroom because it stunk. That’s answer enough.