Hi reddit, i’m a long time lurker and this is my first time posting sorry if it’s weird.
i (19F) am dorming in my college for the first time and me and my roommate (18F) have noticed this semester that we’ve been having issues with our shared bathroom. we have a neighbor (19F) who’s been frequently bringing over her bf (19?M) and every time he visits we notice that that the toilet tends to be covered in urine afterwards. we originally talked to the girl and she said she’d talked to her bf, but afterwards it just continued and now happens on a daily occurrence. there was even times where my roommate and i would walk in and see a white substance on the toilet and floor (i wish to not know what it is) both of us have sent several reports to the RA but nothing could be done because he doesn’t live in the building. i have pictures and videos still of a lot of these incidents (i also have videos of him trying to force himself into the bathroom while i was inside but that’s an entirely different situation i’ve already reported) and i’m considering reporting this to campus security but im not sure if that would over stepping anything. i’m at my wits end because i’ve reported it to the RA, i talked to the girl more than once, but this keeps happening and im disgusted
Sorry, what does “covered in iron” mean? Also, just based on this:
>(i also have videos of him trying to force himself into the bathroom while i was inside but that’s an entirely different situation i’ve already reported)
You are very much NTA, and you need some serious intervention in a very unsafe situation. Immediately. There’s no need to be polite or nice about this, raise hell.
It means he had solo happy fun time in the bathroom i think
NTA. Just report it to whoever you need to. You’ve tried it the nice way and gotten nowhere. Sometimes people won’t let you be nice about things. This is one of those times.
What type of power do RAs hold in reality?
If they aren’t working towards their remit then they need to be removed along with bf.
Make the complaint and keep making them. If the bf and gf just ignorant of these issue?
NTA. report him.
Also – not sure why the RA isnt doing anything because “he doesnt live there”. Ban him. They could easily ban him. And if they aren’t banning someone from the building, based on what you’ve said, go higher than the RA. This is a potentially dangerous situation.
just want to add that when it says “covered in iron” i meant “covered in urine” it’s a typo i’ll try and fix!
Report it to security. Also make a report to housing and request a new roommate or a ban for this visitor.
my roommate isn’t the problem it’s our neighbor. i mentioned my roommate because we both were also experiencing this and filed reports separately. but i’ll definitely make a report to housing
Excuse me, I misread. I just barely got coffee.
Seriously a guy leaving that type of a mess in a shared bathroom and sometimes trying to break into any room is a danger or plain crazy.
Even if you’re afraid it will make you look like a bitch or unreasonable or any other number of names, take every precaution to be safe. Escalate the reports as high and through as many departments as need be.
Even consider police to trespass the guy or to charge him with trying to break into the bathroom especially if you have proof.
NTA if I was in your shoes I’d honestly either A go to campus security or B ask the Ra to move you to a different dorm or C tell the roommate with your other roommate that you both no longer feel comfortable with her bf coming over and that if they want to meet they’d have to meet in his place of residence
NTA. He tried to force himself in the bathroom with you in it? Yeah, no. No need to be polite. Call the police at this point or campus security. What he’s doing is creepy. Idk what RA is but they clearly don’t have enough power or they are just bad at their jobs. You need to tell your roommate if you haven’t, she doesn’t deserve to date a creep.
NTA, that’s disgusting. I would 100% report it if I was you
NTA and you really should do something with your neighbour. Can she be evicted?
Most concerning to me is his trying to force his way in the bathroom while you were in it! That right there warrants campus police & if they don’t do anything then the real police. You are still not the ahole for reporting the unsanitary conditions he leaves your shared bathroom!