For clarification I think I should mention that we are both 18. I (18F) him (18M). I finally started talking to someone again because I broke up with my ex back in June and it had been a while.
• He spam calls me EVERY waking hour of the day. As soon as he sees me online, I’m being called. I explain to him I DONT want to be calling every waking hour of the day but I’d be happy to call when I’m ready and when he also wants to. He understands.
• He then proceeds to continue spam calling me the next day as if we didn’t have that ENTIRE conversation. I calmly & politely explain to him again that I don’t want to be calling all the time because it’s really not my thing. He understands.
• I then get messages at 2amish & he’s saying I’m “putting no effort in” I “don’t care”, etc etc. I remind him I have been ill the entire time we’ve been speaking and I am drained. That I am at college 5 days a week unlike his 2 days, & I work on Saturdays sometimes Sundays. I made him aware of the days I am free & have booked off and what days I finish early, and told him due to me making spontaneous plans, if he wants to pick one of the days I said, he can pick one which suits him best – I can put it in my calendar and we can plan something. He still was being mardy with me.
• I ask him for space – he gives me the exact opposite of space, by spam calling me and spam messaging me. – I remind him that I asked for space and he’s refusing to acknowledge that I even asked for it in the first place. He apologises – I say, okay just please give me space. I get my space.. (for now)
• I then go to the area for the doctors appointment I have, I’ve been waiting there around 20 minutes when I turn my head and see out the window.. a Ferrari jacket. He’s used my location, he’s followed it, and he’s sat outside of my doctors and he did this all without telling me and during the time I asked for space. I’m sat there thinking wtf is happening. I go into my doctors, me & my mum leave out a different exit to the one he’s stood outside of and drive off. He sends me messages such as “I just wanted to see if you were okay.” etc.
• When I get home I message him and explain to him that he overstepped my boundaries that I tried to set and overstepped boundaries that should have been far from obvious, it made me uncomfortable that he even thought it was okay to do what he did. He apologised. and I asked for space for a last time.
• He spam calls and messages me the rest of the day and night. I go to sleep and I get messages such as “I can understand why you get cheated on” “you’re just horrible” “you made no effort” “I’m worth more than that”. I read them at 6am as I’m about to take my pills for my ear infection and I send some messages such as “I wasn’t horrible to you, I was setting boundaries you refused to respect. Which I wanted to make an effort but how could I when you dismissed the boundaries I put in place, particularly when I wanted space”.. AITAH?