AITA, so I’m a 24M and my girlfriend is 20F. We recently found out that we have a baby on the way. She’s about six weeks pregnant and has recently been having very bad mood swings. My girlfriend has always been emotional, and I’ve always tried to be there to keep her level-headed and support her. I’m usually pretty good at helping her through her emotions, or at least handling everything that comes with it.
The other day, my girlfriend was complaining that she felt ugly and that her face keeps breaking out. I had already told her many times that she was wrong and that I think she’s beautiful. This time, I decided to try something different and mentioned an old wives’ tale I had heard before. I said, “Maybe this means the baby is a girl because it’s stealing your beauty.”
She told me that was rude and messed up, and said she felt offended.
My sister agrees with her, and they basically made a whole scene about it. They even asked a waitress at Texas Roadhouse for her opinion on it. If you want more details about that part, I can post it later. For now, I just want to know: am I the asshole?
Yes, YTA.
YTA
You basically said “yeah, you’re ugly, but it’s okay because we can blame the baby!”
BRO!?!?
Oh man…that was not the right thing to say to a pregnant woman. As I’m sure you’ve discovered by now.
“i decided to try something different”
and it’s calling your girlfriend ugly. dude lmao, you’re 24, you know better.
YTA. What an odd thing to say.
Are you really that dense?!?! Of course YTA and a huge one. WOW
YTA! Wth is wrong with you?! DON’T EVERY SAY THAT AGAIN
YTA
OP: My GF, who is carrying my child, is emotional and worried that she isn’t attractive.
Also OP: Oh, I know. I’ll say something insensitive that implies that she is not attractive.
Are you ok? Like do you have a head injury or some kind of brain tumor that would possibly explain why you think saying that to a pregnant woman is a totally fine statement. Holy cow… YTA.
Holy fuck, that’s an impressive level of fuck up. YTA
YTA. In what universe is reinforcing ur partners insecurities not an AH move. Who cares if she’s emotional, shes 20 years old having a baby
YTA, you sound super immature. Being pregnant is one of the hardest things on a woman’s body and emotions. If you can’t understand that and appreciate what she’s going through you shouldn’t be having children, you are a child. 🤷🏼♀️
YTA. Especially for the “she’s always been emotional” and the whole ‘I’m the super mature rational one who obviously knew I was making a joke and how dare she overreact to me saying the baby is making her look ugly’ vibe of your post.