I like doing small DIY projects, so over the years I’ve collected a decent set of tools. Nothing extremely expensive, but some of them definitely weren’t cheap either. A few months ago my neighbor asked if he could borrow my electric drill to fix a shelf in his garage. I said sure and told him to just bring it back when he was done. He returned it a couple days later, but I noticed the drill bit was bent and the battery casing had a crack in it. When I asked him about it, he said it must have already been like that, which I know wasn’t true because I had used it the week before. I didn’t want to make a big deal out of it, so I just let it go and ended up replacing the damaged parts myself. Last week he knocked on my door again asking if he could borrow my ladder and a few other tools for another project. This time I told him I’d prefer not to lend out my tools anymore. He got a bit annoyed and said neighbors are supposed to help each other out and that I was being stingy. Now a couple of other neighbors have heard about it, and one of them said I could have just given him another chance. From my perspective, I already helped once and ended up with damaged equipment. So now I’m wondering… AITA for refusing to lend him my tools again after the last time they came back damaged?
NTA. I just spent 350.00 on a new tool set because my old one is missing sockets and they’re not even in the right slots.
Those other neighbours offered him their tools right? Right??? 🫠 NTA
even if he hadn’t broken them, you don’t have to share just because he asked but when he breaks stuff the answer has to be never!
NTA. If he had offered to replace those parts regardless of who broke it that would be one thing but shrugging it off means no more lending (to him at least).
Once again, you help someone out, and they decide that you owe them help. So, not only does the borrower think that you owe it to him to lend him your tools, but he is, apparently, whining to your other neighbors about it. The borrower can open up his wallet and buy his own tools instead of borrowing yours. My dad had stopped loaning out tools because he had similar experiences. NTA. And the nosy neighbors can be generous with their own things, not yours.
I love when others want to loan out your stuff for you. NTA, but let him know those neighbors said they would help him. When he comes back confused, let him know you are just as confused.
NTA. He broke your property, then lied to your face about it.
Isn’t funny how it’s always the person who wrecks crap who goes running to everyone else to tell them that YOU’RE the bad friend?
If we’re supposed to “help each other out” then he can START helping by buying you a new battery to replace the one he cracked.
nta. he didn’t even take responsibility as far as admitting to his actions, let alone making you whole. lending him anything would be foolish. but hey, your neighbors who feel he deserves a second chance should feel free to give him as many as they like.
with their stuff. not yours. it’ll be a teaching moment.
In the real world do neighbours really discuss things like this ?
Nta. I prefer not to lend my things to neighbors who damage my stuff and play dumb.
NTA. He had one chance and screwed it up. Your neighbor can loan him stuff.
Definitely NTA. I don’t lend tools period.
NTA When someone gets upset that you won’t let them have access to your things or time as if you owe it to them, then I am generally quick to point that out and cut ties. I’d just be like “dude, you damaged my tools, and now you’re calling me stingy? Just be glad I’m not sending you a bill to replace them. Don’t ask me again.”
NTA at all and I would tell everyone, including the neighbor, that he damaged your tools and nope. Tell the other neighbors to lend them the stuff instead.