I (F) have a close male friend who I’ve known for years. He’s the kind of friend who’s reliable — he’s shown he can show up for me when I’m struggling. We’ve always shown our affection for each other and hugged.
Lately, I’ve noticed that when we do hug, he places his hands on my lower back (kinda by the sacrum) and I’ve found myself wondering if this is just him showing normal care and apt intimacy (given our close friendship) or if it’s more or perhaps it means nothing at all and I’m tripping!
Reddit peeps, could yall help me!
Lower back is always a smooth move.
The lower the hands, the more intimate (and sexual) the hug.
If he grabs your feet, he’s really into you.
Foot massage
Unless it’s on your ass, it doesn’t really mean anything. I hug women mid back, middle back, small back. Just depends on the entry of the hug so it’s not awkward
More telling than the position of his hands is the position of his penis during the hug.
Overthinking much?
Does he thrust his pelvic region forward and into you when hugging? That would be a telltale sign.
Sacrum lol
I hug all my friends and I’ll always keep my hands above the shoulder blades. I wouldn’t go below that cause it can come across as sexual.
I go straight for the minge.
The hand placement means nothing, the fact he’s there to help (and hug in the first place) probably means you’re to his liking.
The fact that you’re close means there’s no point either performing or interpreting subtle flirtations. There’s very little difference between suggestive over-familiarity and authentic, friendly familiarity.
If you want to say something, say it. If you want to know something, ask it.
Overthinking in my opinion.