Hello, this is my first time posting, so here’s some background info, i almost 18 F and my mother, 46 F, got into a major argument today, over my eighteenth birthday invite. Like she pushed past me, ran to her room, screaming like someone hit her and was sobbing. Now I’m an artist, and it’s an ongoing debate in my household that I do not like AI slop, or the ‘art’. My parents love it, and I’m frequently explaining to them that it’s just stolen slop and not even actual art. My mother knows this; however, she’s decided to use ChatGPT to create the invite and showed it off to me proudly. It’s clearly AI, I could tell straight away, so I commented that it looked like its ai, and she admitted it was. I then reminded her i do not like Ai slop and didn’t want it for my birthday, and she got all defensive and told me she put ‘a lot of effort into it’. We had been butting heads for the past week or so, so i wasnt completly innocent because I gave her attitude, and asked her what effort, that all she did was write a prompt. That’s when she pushed me, screamed and ran off to her room crying. No other words, no insults from me to warrant such a reaction. My two siblings think that im a horrible person and that I should have just shut up and let her use the AI one. I ended up having to make it myself and spelled February wrong, and she sent it out to everyone before telling me about the mistake to spite me. It’s such a petty thing too but i dont think AITA?
NTA
If she’d hated the colour green and cockatoos would she think it would be all alright for you to make a green cockatoo birthday party invitation for *her*?
ESH – that wasn’t a good reason to give your mom attitude. Her reaction sounds, let’s say “not parental.”
You should suck it up and apologize (and so should she, but you can only control you).
I have apologised and explained i didnt mean to make her upset. But she didnt want to hear it and called me some names instead.
NTA
yikes, sounds like a family drama that could fuel a reality show, but yeah, you’re definitely not the villain here.
NTA
You should get to decide on your own party invitations. Your mother threw a tantrum befitting a 4 year old. It’s your fault to not have spelled February correctly, but it was passive aggressive for her to not tell you out of spite. Hope you’re going away to college soon.
Yatah, your mother does not have to give you a birthday party… you are blessed that she is willing to do so. I grew up never having a birthday party… I would be happy to put you in touch with my childhood friends and you can ask them…. So you don’t like ai-art… your mother is not an artist… you are an artist but you cannot spell…. We all have our weaknesses. This is your last birthday before you may move out of the house… but your invitations are the hill you want to die on? Both my parents are dead… oh the crap I pulled I wish I could apologize for…. After my Mom died my father and I grew really close. But he died two years after my mother died! Life is short…. You never know when a life will go away. Go make nice with your mother!
NTA, I see that some comments here are using your age as an argument but, there is no age to have preferences and sticking up for what you think is right as long as you are not condescending about it.
It’s your birthday, a day that is literally meant to make you happy, she may have had good intentions with the invite but it doesn’t make you obligated to agree with something you’re obviously not comfortable with and don’t like.
Her reaction was also very strange, immature and borderline manipulative also, like she wanted you to feel bad and guilty, also, spelling mistakes happen to everyone.
NTA. Judging from your comments, it’s best to go low contact with them soon.
NTA, your mom is way too old to be having a full-on temper tantrum just because you didn’t want a “prompt-engineered” invite for your own birthday.
Is this really about the invite? Cause I feel like there is more going on
NTA she knows you don’t like AI, it would have been really easy for her to ask you to make your own invite knowing this, instead she ignored your wishes, got upset you didn’t like it, and then ran off screaming like a kicked puppy. Wildly childish response to your pretty warranted reaction