EDIT 2: \*i should have worded it out different HAHAHA OMG\*
\*\*EDIT!!: IGNORING= i say an idea and he switched the topic and acts like i never said anything ITS NOT ABOUT REPLYING INSTANTLY LOL NO WONDER U GUYS THINK IM AN ASSHOLE HAHAHAHA
i always told him i didnt mind if he didnt reply right away or we didnt text everyday, the big issue is when i pointed out a boundary he crossed it repeatedly and said it wasnt disrespectful!! (telling me how my boundaries should work) thats when i called him immature!!\*\*
So i was texting him for a while now, we talk whenever we can and ofc we dont text all the time and i never mind that nor complained about it. However i pointed out something from the very beginning and that is i HATE having my texts ignored and its something i find direspectful, that usually is something disrespectful in common sense but if i do point it out its especially rude to do it knowing.
So when we talked he did it a lot of times, and i was very forgiving (more than i was with anyone else because i usually just stop talking to anyone who does that) but this time i told him goodnight after he said he wasnt going to sleep and he just left me on read. no complaints. a whole day passes by, he didnt text he didnt say good morning nothing, i didnt complain. then after the second day he sends a random picture of his whereabouts, i told him “atleast say good morning first” and he ignored it and sent another similar picture. that was the last straw for me, i didnt reply. days after he started confronting me saying whats wrong why did i ghost him and i said go back to the last thing i said, he said no i should just tell him because this “isnt an exam” and i told him i won’t repeat myself, to which he replied “dont tell me that, either u do or block me” then i gave him i hint and he said well theres no disrespect in me not replying to that text and i was just… confused…? is this not common sense that when u ignore someone its just wrong let alone when u do it a lot and they say u shouldnt? and i was always the one saying good morning and goodnight and i never complained, he kept saying hes not much of a texter and i made him look like a villain, i replied “if you dont think this is disrepect then theres something wrong with you”
im just so confused how many people lack this much maturity? and he went on to say i made him a villain and he would do efforts but i was so forgiving to the point i couldnt take it
YTA. Good night doesn’t require a response, it’s the end of a conversation, not a question nor a reply? If you were in person, I’d understand being surprised, but you are not.
And… if this isn’t working for you at the stage, cut your losses and move on. Stop trying to make him into who you want him to be, and find someone that behaves as you do, problem solved!
Good luck!
YTA – If you’re looking for someone with a maturity problem, your first stop should be a mirror.
YTA and sounds like you’re the one with a maturity problem. Maybe reevaluate how important texting is to you or communicate it early on (which it sounds like you just let things slide and build up based on your post). Also date someone your own age, 27 and 20 is weird.
Especially when OP is acting 16.
YTA. Not every text needs a response.
Even the middle school drama post 3hr ago had more maturity…
YTA – you‘re learning to be independent.
YTA
You sound immature and EXTRAORDINARILY needy.
Girl seriously?! Of course YTA, and you’re gonna be a single AH in no time. The only immature and frankly childish one here is YOU!
Prime examples of your immaturity:
1. Expecting someone to continue on a conversation after you said, “goodnight” implying your going to sleep.
2. Ghost your own boyfriend, like seriously this is the definition of immaturity and just flat out not a way to communicate like an adult, because you didn’t communicate like at all.
3. Choosing to continue your tantrum, instead of explaining yourself which frankly you don’t have an argument here.
4. Lastly insulting your boyfriend for acting like a normal human being AFTER ghosting him for days.
Grow up or stay single. But I think you’re on your way to getting dumped. YTA again.
Well, he’s definitely not the AH, so I guess it’s you. I do that to my wife all the time, she does it to me too, neither has ever gotten mad over a text not being replied to, we see each other all the time anyways who cares? Until ya’ll are married and living together you’ll just have to get used to it, this is not a normal thing to get upset over, if you want a reply, then call the man, or meet him in person, end of story, you’re drowning in a glass of water.
YTA- You are not coming across as mature as you believe that you are. Since it’s an AITA about calling someone else immature that’s a “pot calling the kettle black” situation, so yes, YTA.
Good night is an end to a conversation, especially in text. It’s also considered rude to still text after that. If you did indeed let it go then why bother bringing it up at all.
If the issue is that he doesn’t text you good morning or good night then that’s a different conversation, and not actually about ignoring texts.
In the end you approached things passive aggressively by ghosting him and then playing the “you should know” nonsense. That’s not maturity, you can be more direct with your communication and stop making assumptions.
Wow grow up! You sound like my ex. Not every text needs to be answered right away, not everyone needs to text you EVERY SINGLE DAY. You’re the immature one getting upset because your friend decides to take a break from texting for a day or two. Are you in love with this guy and it’s why you’re acting like this?
YTA big time
Holy smokes. Grow up
This is apparently your schtick, and you have to own this. Jeepers, you’re not the main character in everyone’s life.
“Go back to the last thing I said”
All while you’ve been building up resentment about unanswered or you initiating good morning & good night texts.
YTA
YTA. Someone’s gotta have the last word. Texts do not need to go on and on. It has nothing to do with maturity on his part.
YTA – People communicate in different ways, some of which are compatible while others aren’t.
More to the point, think about the dynamic you’re trying to assert here. Your potential partner must bend to your needs, without you evaluating theirs… Or you block them? And that’s maturity?
To further this, you’re disagreeing with everyone who replies almost as though everyone is wrong and you’re the only one who’s right? Again, not a great demonstration of maturity.