It’s a sports team facebook group. There’s a shirt that can only be bought in store and not be shipped. Someone offered to buy it for me but I wasn’t entirely sure if they were actually going to do so especially since I live out of state. The person actually seemed more eager to help me constantly messaging me more often. The shirt was $40 and they told me they’d ship it to me for $60 which is kind of expensive and **I told them I wasn’t 100% on wanting it.**
Two days later the person tells me they bought it and showed me the pictures so I asked how much it would cost in total. They said it was $44 with tax and that it’s another $6 for shipping. I was ok with $50 but they wanted $60 for packaging and going out of their way to get it. $60 is expensive for a t-shirt and I mentioned I wasn’t 100% certain I wanted it. I think the person is pissed but I’m just ignoring them now.
Seems reasonable to not want to pay 60 for the shirt. Especially if it’s already 25% over the cost of it with shipping, adding 50% of the cost seems like highway robbery. I’m not sure anyone would happily do that
surely this facebook drama doesn’t require help here, does it?
No one here should deal with FB drama.
Just say no and mean it.
NTA. You never had a deal, and you specifically told this person you weren’t sure you wanted it, at least not at the price of $60. It’s a bit weird, to be honest, that they were so intent on buying this shirt for you.
Ya I was surprised how much they wanted to do it for me. I don’t think they were trying to scam me because they showed proof of pics that they bought it.
So you never agreed to them buying it for you? If so NTA.
hard to say without knowing the exact chats leading up to them buying it.
seems a bit cheeky they want to add money on top so im leaning nta. maybe offer 55 final offer haha
NTA cause you never agreed but $10 is not an offensive ask, at all. But that they paid the $40 and won’t get paid is more them than you although, again $10 is not offensive at all.
NTA for refusing when you never gave a solid yes. YTA for your reasoning, though. If you live out of state shipping is not going to be 6 dollars and paying the person a small fee for their time and effort is very typical in these situations.
NTA. if you don’t want to pay the extras, then you don’t want the shirt. the person shouldn’t have bought it without clarifying the details and making a deal with you.
however, sending an extra $10 for someone who went out of their way for you isn’t asking for much. if i was in your position and someone offered to get the shirt for me, i would have offered to send extra funds before they even asked. you’re still not an asshole but just thought i’d add that part because someone said it’s highway robbery to ask for $10 when it’s actually a very reasonable request.
NTA. Sounds like they’re going to scam you 100% by how pushy they are plus going and “buying” it then adding extra costs.
Scam scam scam.. just say no.and block..