AITA am I the asshole? 27f was discussing the future with my bf of 2 years 23m in our discussion we were talking about marriage and kids etc. I then had said about how I’ve always wanted to foster / adopt kids Ive been talking about this for years. He’s heard me talk about it probably a 100 times anyway when I said this he replied with not really being interested and I asked why and he replied he wouldn’t want to waste resources on fostered children he’d rather focus his time energy and resources on his people (bio kids) when I had said about just adopting he said he wouldn’t be more okay with that but still doesn’t want a lot of kids it’s been a few days since the conversation and it’s still stuck in my head I think I might want to end our relationship over this but I also don’t because we do get along pretty well. Am I over reacting?
NTA. His response is definitely not what you’d expect. I myself am adopted and would have been insanely shocked to hear something like that of a response. not entirely sure if this is relationship ending material but i would talk to him about it bothering you
NAH. You want what you want, and he wants what he wants – nothing wrong with either viewpoint. This sounds like a dealbreaker point, though.
NTA- sounds like you guys long term goals aren’t compatible
NTA. It seems you two are just not compatible, you are entitled to your own opinion/perspective and so is he. If it feels like you two are not gonna be able to compromise then I say it’s better to just part ways and find your respective like-minded partners.
Money and kids are two big things that a couple needs to be on the same page about if they’re going to have a successful relationship. You two are not on the same page about kids. That doesn’t mean that either of you is wrong, but you’re not right for each other.
“Because we do get along pretty well” doesn’t seem like a good enough reason to keep going with a partner who clearly has different long term plans.
NTA
Honestly I wouldn’t have any kids until you know how to write a coherent sentence.
Needlessly rude
NAH. You all aren’t compatible.
He reminds me of the MIL who doesn’t accept stepkids or adopted kids as grandchildren and ignores them.
NTA. Do *not* marry someone who isn’t on the same page as you about kids. Do not assume they’ll change their mind later. End it cleanly now.
21 and 25? That sure is a choice you can make.
If you want to foster and adapt children, you need to be as somebody’s on the same page as you
A kid doesn’t wanna adopt a kid!?