During the reception, I went to the band and asked them to play a song for me to sing to my new wife. it was the song from our first date in a really bad Mexican restaurant so it became a long-standing joke between us. The guests really loved the song, my MIL cried and told me it was beautiful, but my bride seemed upset. I asked her what was wrong and she said I am an [a**hole] for taking the spotlight to enforce my ethnicity and not just let the band sing our song for us… Aita?
NTA
Does your wife not realize that it was your wedding too?
NTA. I think what you did was lovely and your bride needs to get over herself.
Your wife sounds a little racist and self absorbed. Not going to lie. Idk if I’d want to be married to someone who says stuff like this. It’s pretty normal for the bride or groom to do something special for their partner. Sometimes it’s singing and sometimes it’s dancing. If you look up charlotte dobre, her and her husband Mike just got married. Mike actually recorded an entire song for her and when they had their first dance, he swapped it with the agreed upon song. She cried because it was so special. That is what a healthy and loving relationship looks like. Not a narcissist tantrum about not being the center of attention for five minute…
INFO: Can you possibly explain what the hell she means by “enforcing your ethnicity?”
NAH. I don’t think there should be surprises at weddings. So many people dislike them.
You enforced your ethnicity? Would you like to fill us in? I am totally lost.
Well, he said their first date was at a Mexican restaurant and they heard the song there. But last time I checked, you don’t have to be a specific ethnicity to eat Mexican food, or that Mexican restaurants limit their “mood music” to solely Hispanic songs.
*So yeah, I’m a little ” lost”, too.*
NTA. That was very sweet of you. I hope your wife figures that out now that the stress of the wedding is over and apologizes profusely. If not, you’ve got a tough road ahead with your “first” wife.
Info: do you usually sing publicly? Is this something you thought your wife would enjoy?
**Well, what was the song?**
Sorry she acted like toward you. Not the AH, this was your wedding. You felt great and wanted to sing a song to her. I pray your marriage is a happy one, not sure it will be
Your wife sounds like a fucking psycho. Not too late for an anullment.
Forcing your ethnicity? WTF does that even mean? Lord this is how it’s starting, it will only continue.
NTA
No I don’t think I’m over reacting
Oh dear.
You’re NTA but fear this is going to be the first of many issues…
NTA. The day is about both of you so you’re allowed some time in the spotlight. Your wife is jealous of you and apparently has an issue with your ethnicity.