Like the title says, my mom and dad divorced years ago and I decided to stay with my dad because he has a stable job. My mom is always sick and had to have her liver replaced last year.
Since she’s been in and out of hospitals, she’s always sick and I don’t like feeling guilty about it, things happen and it’s not my fault.
Since then my dad has remarried to a nurse that makes a lot of money, she’s nice and she’s always let me do anything I wanted.
I’m currently enrolled in college. Recently, I found out my mother’s kidneys are starting to fail but I don’t feel like reaching out to her just to watch her die. It’s been years since I spoke to her and it just makes me feel angry whenever I think about it.
Lately she’s been reaching out begging for me to talk to her, but I feel like it’s a trap just to get me to take care of her. AITA?
Besides being sick and not being rich, is there a reason you hate your mother?
Yeah I’m going with a hard YTA because if she was abusive then I feel like it would have been mentioned before the part where OP picked dad because she didn’t have money.
Depends. More context is needed.
Did you stop talking to her just because of her physical ailments? If so, then I would say you are being an asshole.
If there was more to this, like if she had mental health challenges that made her unsafe to be around, then that would change everything.
Refusing to talk to your mom because she’s sick is wild
Was your mother abusive or why do you care so little about her?
Yta that is messed up you abandoned her because she’s sick, who does that
If you dont you will regret it when you eventually mature. I’m being kind here as you sound selfish as hell. Your new mommy has some money and lets you do what you want, and you don’t want to see your bio mom because it will be a bummer.
Yes, YTA.
So you ditched your mom because she isn’t rich rich and sick. Are there any other reasons? If not, you’re an A hole.
As presented?
YTA big time
You basically went I like my stepmom more because she let’s me do whatever I want which makes the I don’t want to contact my mom just to watch her die also look selfish AF.
There’s nothing in this that indicates she’s been abusive, or that you don’t want to see her die because you care.
Everything here is framed in such a selfish way. By you yourself OP.
Just absolutely vile but at this point probably good that you don’t contact her. For her sake. So she doesn’t have to see what you really think about her.
Bro, she’s not doing it on purpose. She’s suffering. Reach out or you’ll regret and she’ll die suffering because her son replaced her. My sister is very sick, there’s ALWAYS something wrong with her, my parents always take her side, she always MORE important. I’m working on moving out, so my life doesn’t revolve around her needs. But guess what? She’s my sister and if she was sick like that, I’d visit her until the end. I love her, we were dealt a shit hand, it’s not her fault. Remember that. Maybe get a therapist so you can also work through the trauma of having a sick mom instead of a capable of. Being there for your parent when their going to die, is growing up. I’m sorry it’s happening a little early. But if you’re not there for her now while she’s alive, you’ll be 40 and you can NEVER undo, not being there for your mom. Don’t be selfish and think about how it’s affecting YOU. Mom is sick, now you have to be the grown up, who handles the tough shit. So suck it up, be there for mom, cause she’s not going to be around very long, you know? Don’t live a life of regret.
So you’re blaming your mother for her failing health, and the fact that you and your dad both abandoned her?
Yeah, YTA. You’re not obligated to take care of her, but this seems extremely immature and callous.
Get some therapy before you regret it when it’s too late
YTA
This is your mom and you abandoned her because she was sick. YTA! She is just asking to talk with you. If you don’t talk to her, you will end up regretting that decision in the future. From the info you gave us, she has not done anything else to wrong you. Even if she wasn’t a good mom, you will regret not seeing what she wants.
Please talk to her, before it’s too late.
If this is bait, it’s good.
YTA, you might be the single worst person I’ve ever seen on this subreddit.