My birthday is march 7th, it dosent feel special at all i don’t even want to make birthday lists anymore. Im turning 15 this year but last year when i turned 14, is when i realised it birthdays arent even fun and i dont know why every year people get excited for you like they’re the one who is having their birthday. birthdays are just normal days but i am reminded that im getting older and have to suffer in this world for the rest of my days its really bad. And when i tell my parents i dont wanna do anything they say no we have to do something for your birthday because its my birthday. And then im miserable because they plan something anyways despite me not wanting to do anything its annoying as hell and i just hate birthdays and Christmas for that matter. I live in scotland in 2025 it didnt even look like Christmas it looked like it was freaking September with some leaves still being orange like where is the snow and everything else that makes Christmas christmassy.
lmao YTA a lil but honestly ur parents are being extra af too ur 15 girl chill ur literally acting like birthdays r some deep existential crisis like “im getting older and have to suffer forever” bro ur not even old enough to drive yet calm down with the dramatics
birthdays r just a day yeah but most ppl like the cake the presents the attention the free food like why u gotta be a moody gremlin abt it?? u saying u hate it and christmas too bc no snow in scotland?? scotland weather been mid since forever get over it 😂 it aint gonna snow on command just bc ur in a bad mood
ur parents forcing u to “do something” is annoying yeah they should listen when u say u dont want the fuss but u also sound like ur making it way more miserable than it needs to be. if u just say “i dont want a big thing can we just do pizza and chill at home” maybe theyd back off instead of u going full “i hate my life every march 7th” vibe
real talk: if u rlly hate it that much then next year just tell them straight “no party no cake no nothing i will literally lock myself in my room if u try” and mean it. dont complain the whole time if they do force it tho bc then ur just making everyone else miserable too. or idk fake a stomach ache and dip
NTA for not liking birthdays (ur feelings valid) but YTA for acting like the worlds ending every time the calendar flips to march. ur 15 not 50 get a grip and maybe ask for something lowkey like new games or whatever u actually want instead of sulking abt getting older. life sucks enough without u making ur own birthday a funeral fr
In general, NTA for not wanting to celebrate your birthday. I have never been a big birthday person myself (although I am always happy to celebrate my friends’ bdays). However, this existential crisis you seem to feel surrounding your birthday (especially at such a young age) suggests it might be worth talking to a mental health professional.
I was gonna say the same thing. This post sounds a bit like a mental health crisis not a simple “eh I’m just not a big fan of birthday celebrations and the attention.”
NTA. You’re allowed to not care about your birthday. Not everyone loves the attention or the whole “big deal” vibe, especially as you get older.
But they want to celebrate your birthday because you being born means a great deal to them, it’s the only day they get to celebrate you being in the world. Just have a meal with them or let them make you a cake and they will remember when you were born and how excited they were to meet you x
My parents do this and I’m double your age. They will continue to do this probably. Let them have their fun, it won’t take long. You’ll be glad you did when your older and they’re no longer around.
Ooooh, teenage angst. I remember these days well 😂
I understand why you’re feelin bummy about it – it’s hard to ignore that the world is shit right now, but I can promise you that life is way more fun when you make it that way in your own little bubble.
Try to be thankful that your parents care about you enough to want to celebrate the day you became a part of the family – not everyone gets that.
NTA.
As someone who also don’t care much about my birthday, you’re entitled to feel how you feel about your own birthday. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful to have been born happy and healthy but (for me personally) after years of not celebrating it and not many people really acknowledging it, I got to a point where I stopped caring about it myself
NTA, but since you know they won’t let it go without doing *something,* ask for something small. Ask for a specific kind of cake, whatever kind you enjoy, and ask for a lowkey family dinner at your favorite restaurant, or even takeout. Then enjoy the food and company and try to tolerate the birthday bits.
Get screened for depression. NAH.
I used to love my birthday because it’s the day before Halloween and I had some amazing birthdays. But, the older I got, the less I care. My mom still likes to make cupcakes for my birthday and I’m 58. She’s 80, so I don’t grumble. It helps that she doesn’t like to throw parties anymore. Let them celebrate your birthday, but you don’t have to celebrate with them. Presents get cheesier as you get older, so you can let them know that you don’t want any. Maybe you could go to dinner with them. We used to do that instead of parties, but you should spend time with them while you still can.
This isn’t really a AITA question this is an “are you ok, do you need to talk to a mental health professional?” Question. I mean this genuinely but I think you’d benefit from unplugging and touching some grass. You shouldn’t be having such an intense existential crisis especially at such a young age. I get a lot of things are shitty rn in the world but we all have to find some bits of joy where we can so we don’t just give up on life. You have parents that seem to care about you and want to celebrate you and that’s more than what most have. Maybe take this time to celebrate the things you do have instead of focusing on the negative. I say this as a former angsty teen myself.