Sitting in BC on a flight to YYZ from YVR. Overhead bin space is allocated above our seats and a little tricky. Had to finesse my carry on flat not sideways (Lower height bins) and my seat mate looked up from her laptop and laughed with me as I took a moment to figure it out and said she had the same issue. It was sorted i closed the full bin and settled in for our flight. A man and a woman come rushing into the flight just after last call, and he’s huffing and complaining under his breath. He has 2x carry on’s and a huge backpack and starts opening bins left and right and tries to stuff his bags wherever he can. Then he opens ours and yells at us and says we did it wrong and that obviously we don’t know a thing about loading bags … and pulls out our luggage, puts his in and tries to stuff our bags sideways and starts swearing as obviously the bins won’t close. I get up and tell him not to remove our bags and put them back.. and he glares at me and again tries to tell me I’m wrong… and keeps banging the bin on my luggage. Finally I look at him and tell him to stop trying to mansplain how to do something we had figured out before he came on board and decided to play a game of bag Tetris. I was firm and annoyed. And then the flight attendant came and told this man to leave our bags and sit down.. then she took his bags away (gate check) put ours back, and that was that. His wife looked embarrassed apologized and said her husband had a bad day.. and after I sat down I felt bad about raising my voice. AITA?
NTA. You’re allowed to be upset with someone who’s touching your stuff and yelling at you. If he wanted to be treated nicely, he could’ve offered that grace to other people in the first place.
NTA.
As women, we need to stop second guessing ourselves or feeling bad about using our voices to call out a bully.
Bullies, particularly the mansplaining ones, continue to bully only because they can almost always count on women who have been trained to be polite just sitting there meekly and quietly in response.
Yeah, this guy and his wife are still living with the double-standard that men get to be assholes to women and women are assholes if we don’t take it with an apology to them. It’s absurd.
Just be glad you are not his wife, or someone who has to watch her deal with him all the time.
Yeah, I’m also nauseous over the bully’s wife apologizing for him rather than tearing him a new one.
NTA and its infuriating that we live in a world that has trained us to second-guess ourselves when we encounter these major assholes
There’s people like this everywhere – arrive late, cause chaos, huffing and puffing, aggressive, full of their own self- importance, behaving as though they own the place. They need to be put back in their place. Well done for standing your ground.
BTW loving phrase “Bag Tetris”
NTA.
NTA, not even close.
This is exactly how this was supposed to happen. He boarded last, his bags didn’t fit, and they got gate checked. End of story.
He’s hoping you won’t say anything and your bag somehow where the problem, not his. And your bags went to cargo.
NTA
Not even remotely
You do not touch other people’s shit on a plane
No you’re NTA ,even the man’s wife was embarrassed by his behaviour .He sounds like a cranky grump
NTA. Good karma though. You don’t touch other people’s stuff
Good for you. Handled it like a lady. Did you really tell him not to mansplain? I imagine that got a good laugh. I’m so tired of these big old bullying men and women behaving badly in public and everyone just sitting there not doing anything about it. Or worse filming it on their stupid phones.
Yeah. I actually did. I’m a female software engineer and work in a very male dominated career , and I am just over being talked down to by men in general. I was at the end of my rope as well but being pleasant …until grumpy pants entered the aircraft.
I can relate having worked with the big dogs for most of my career. You handled it well and respectfully with the right amount of kick ass!