My siblings and I are planning a weekend away for mother’s birthday. My siblings have 9 kids between them. They want to rent three 3 bed cottages (one bathroom per cottage) there will be 19 of us all together including kids.
I have said me and my partner, who don’t have kids would prefer to rent someone nearby for our own space.
This did not go down well and they are saying it would be better if we were all together. My partner would also like to stay a bit separate…AITA???
NTA, esp if your partner shares the sentiment. What’s better to someone else isn’t what’s better for EVERYONE involved. Let them know you two will be as present as you need to be but that you hate kids or whatever LOL (this is a joke unless it’s not)
NTA-if you are paying for your own accommodations then stay wherever you want.
Maybe they think it would be better if you were all together so they could have some extra hands for childcare.
NTA as long as you’re paying for your own place you can choose where you like. As a fellow kid free adult I’d 100% book my own place and then can choose when to be with the rest of the family and when to leave
They just want your financial contribution and to dump some parenting responsibilities on you
NTA this is a weird setup. They expect you to share a house with their kids and the parents be in a completely different house. This sounds terrible for you. They want you to take care of their kids
Your siblings are expecting help with the kids.
NTA
As long as you’re the one paying for the extra room, you do you
They want everyone to stay close so that everyone can help out with childcare. You choosing to stay elsewhere takes you out of the childcare equation putting the work back on them to take care of all the kids. This is why they are mad. NTA
Not only that, but the accommodation will be more expensive for the parents as they won’t be able to prorate with OP
NTA. Get your own space. 3 bathrooms between 19 folks is no way to live on what is supposed to be an enjoyable weekend. Also, it makes it easier to remove yourself from any childcare drama or circumstances you might have to deal with that will affect your sleep. Offer to kick in for your portion of the cost of what it will be to pay for your mom/parents because it’s for her birthday.
Stand up for your respect and do it now that you’re young. You don’t want to set up a pattern of being a doormat just because you’re one of the youngest and childless. Stop it before it starts. There are cell phones and vehicles. Everyone will be all right.
NTA.
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I can already see this… They expect you, the one without kids, to take care of their kids…
That’s 6 people in two and 7 people in one cabin. That means some bed somewhere is going to be three to a bed, so this frees up a bed! 😉
They’re probably counting on you sharing costs and providing childcare, but that’s entirely too much togetherness.
NTA, but perhaps offer to chip in on some of your mom’s costs.
NTA. I have 5 (mostly adult) kids and this sounds like my personal Hell.
Nta, stand your ground and get a separate place. I have a big family and when hubby and I didn’t have baby yet, we were chopped liver. We got floor and couch spots over beds. The “kids need to sleep comfy”..
If you don’t want the worst spot to sleep or be a constant baby sitter, get your own space
NTA. They are expecting you to chip in with renting the cottages as well as provide childcare. Don’t fall for it. Stick to your plan and rent elsewhere.