Hi, I am 30sF and I work in a hospital. I am very obese and I am working on it, but its obviously not happening over night.
Well our department got renewed and we got three bathrooms – female, male and patient. The thing is that the weight limit in the female toilet is lower as it hangs on a hollow wall and the patient toilet is on very sturdy wall, so I go to the patient one in order to avoid destroying the toilet (i dont know the weight limit, but it makes weird sounds when I sit on it in the female bathroom).
Well my coworker 50sF started to tell me off for going to the patient bathroom because what if patient needs to go and I am there. Mind you I am there for 2-3 minutes just to pee and out. Today I got out and she started bitching me in front of other people and for the worst in front of a patient. I tried to explain myself but she kept interrupting me. I snapped and told her "What should I do, do you want me to go to pee outside in the snow?" And she told me she doesnt care but doesnt want me on the patients toilet again. It was for the third time she humiliated me over this and I just said fuck it and went to complain to her boss who told me it s absolutely okay for me to go to the patients toilet and that its actually safety concern for her. She also told my coworker off pretty badly.
Now my coworker came back, started to slam thing around, called me a rat, bitch and spoiled little child and entlitled cow who thinks just because she earns more (I am medical physicist and she is nurses assistant) she can do anything she wants. The nurse who was there with us told me I am the one who was right, but i really feel bad about it.
AiTA for telling on her to her boss ?
Edit: fixing mistakes
Nope, NTA.
Come on now, obviously NTA. It’s never acceptable to use that kind of language toward anyone in any workplace. Start reporting her every time she calls you any names. Document it all and bring it all to HR.
She actually called me bitch and so on after I reported her. I dont care much about that. But it was humiliating to discuss my bathroom time especially in front of a patient.
Genuinely, keep reporting it. This is such insane behavior that it’s bizarre to me that you’re even considering ignoring it. No part of this story was even remotely okay, and she should be fired multiple times over.
No, not at all. You don’t have to tolerate her calling you names either. She is very unprofessional.
Please involve HR and do not engage with this person. She sounds horrible and unhinged.
Read your synopsis of what happened after she tattled to her boss, and answer your own question. Don’t engage with a rage bater. NTA
NTA-is your coworker the toilet police? Why is she so invested in what toilet anyone uses? That is wild.
Tell your coworker to kick rocks and make sure to make direct and prolonged eye contact the next time you walk into the patients restroom.
NTA
“Now my coworker came back, started to slam thing around, called me a rat, bitch and spoiled little child and entlitled cow who thinks just because she earns more (I am medical physicist and she is nurses assistant) she can do anything she wants.”— You should go BACK to HR and tell them this as well. She should not be working in healthcare.
You should report her again, and be sure to include the “cow” comment.
Nta. But now you need to report her for last minute and hostile work environment.
NTA. Not only for telling her boss but I hope you’re also going to HR with her reaction after her boss talked to her. I’d document and tell everything she did and said to me.
Tell on her again.
Nope. Now go tell your boss what she said to you as her reaction. Not to continue to punish her, but to create a repeated pattern of behavior to justify you if she tries anything else.