AITA:
When I was out on a date, my date asked for 6 dumplings after ordering a lunch special for me & sushi for him. I asked “6 dumplings?” right after he told the waitress just because i know he asks for extra for me but I don’t eat a lot & I knew I wouldn’t really be able to eat all of that stuff. My date got upset at me for saying that in front of the waitress & told me to say that stuff when there’s no one in front of us to sort it out if needed. Am I the asshole?
NAH? I don’t see what the issue is? He seemed embarrassed that you questioned his order or something, and you seem to feel he ordered too much food… I think? Even if he did order too much… get a to-go box. I don’t get it.
What?
I take it he thought you were good shaming him and got embarrassed. Seems like a simple misunderstanding without any assholes.
Tone and timing matter. In your mind, you were simply confirming. In his mind, it sounded like you were making a negative comment and insulting/embarrassing him in front of a stranger.
NAH (or ESH), just one of those communication things people need to work through together.
If he thought you were criticizing/shaming him for ordering too much, I can see why he’d want to have that conversation privately.
If he generally thinks you should not challenge/question him in front of others, that would be weird and controlling.
Can’t really tell what’s going on in this case, so can’t really give a judgment.
What? This was explained poorly
Disclaimer: I’m not sure I’ve understood this correctly. However, my take is of course it’s NTA. If you think someone’s ordering the wrong food, why on earth would you wait until after the waitress is gone to bring it up?
Did you discuss what you were ordering beforehand? Was there an agreement for who pays for the meal and you felt blind sighted? If not, then NAH.
I don’t understand what the problem is – you could have brought it up after the waitress left, or said “Dumplings? Yum!”
This is just pure communication style between the two of you that needs to work out.
Your date sounds highly strung but that’s not an issue for here
Eh soft YTA you shouldn’t question others orders. They hadn’t said they were ordering them for you yoy just assumed comment came across judgemental
How long have you been dating?
What kind of relationship is this for you two? Fun dating or marriage? If it’s marriage, take a minute. Clearly, this situation struck a cord of concern with you.
La You were not an asshole!
It appears that he cared a lot about what the people at the restaurant thought about him. Really? He is instructing you not to “correct him” in front of other people, strangers that I’m pretty sure y’all didn’t know. It’s seems like a small situation, but it speaks a ton!!Ask him to explain why it was such a big deal to him. He should have just ordered and blown it all off. Sounds like he has a chip on his shoulder. Get to the bottom of it before you go forward. I think he may be the real a$&hole.
Find a MAN who will ask if you would like something and not a BOY who assumes… NTA