Hi everyone,
So I (39F) am currently engaged and my fiance (37M) moved in last year with his 16 y/o terrier mix.
Both of us work across town and on weekdays, and I have discovered that it has been his usual modus operandi to just leave his pup at home during the workday, with no access to the outside for potty breaks. The doggo has just been good to hold it all these years, I guess.
Mupper Pupper seemed fine (at least potty wise) this way for most of last year, but accidents have begun to happen lately. I don’t blame the little guy, but I suggested we start thinking about alternatives–especially after my beau told me he’d noticed worms in Pupper’s waste when taking him outside a few weeks ago.
I don’t have much experience caring for dogs, so I asked around and a friend suggested we try to find someone to come let our senior doggo out during the day so he doesn’t have to try to hold it so long–great! So we started looking around.
My mom (74F) lives about 15 minutes away, and when I told her during her usual visit that we had settled on that solution and were looking for someone, she offered to come by around noon every day to let him out to potty.
Today is the first day she came over to do so, and I’m told everything went fine– also great.
The conflict is this: my father (75M) called me at work this afternoon to tell me I was wrong to ask my mom to do this, and she is doing too much already.
Both of my parents are retired, and have been for at least half a decade now…but they are actively helping raise two younger relatives. Our family is close-knit.
Was it wrong of me to accept my mom’s help with this situation? I mean…maybe I should have thought about what her other obligations are…?