Ok so this one’s a bit crazy so i’ll put some context: Every year right before winter holidays my school has a day where we spend 2-3 hours doing an activity with our class before going to an auditorium for a talent show.
So my friend TY(not her real name, all names are fake) decided to tell the gc this thursday about her plan where a friend from the school would sneak her in where she would spend the 2-3 hours in the bathroom with no phone because her parents track her and she would give the phone to her friends at their school, and sneak with her friend into the auditorium.
I started telling her that it was a horrible idea and all the ways she’d get caught to which she told me to ‘not be negative’ and also told me that ‘the school wouldn’t do anything and even if they did I would tell the whole school about all their wrongdoings’ (she had to leave the school due to some drama). So long story short she got the idea to climb onto the stage and tell everyone about the school and their failures in case she got caught .
So this was just before school started and I stumbled into that friend (Ana) who was going to sneak her in so I told her about the plan.
School ends and I check the gc to so one of my friends (Mike) posting an audio saying that we are toxic friends for trying to stop TY’s plans which while i agree with, keep in mind that she would be traspassing on private property and that cops would be called as she’s an unaccompined minor without a phone doing this.
The drama comes at 6PM when I open whattsapp to see 1:I’ve been eliminated from the gc, 2: Mike had sent me a screenshot of TY’s and Ana’s conversation where Ana said that I told her that she’d climb up on stage (which I did). Unbenounst to me, TY had sent an audio saying that the stage plan was a joke which I hadn’t heard so I explained that to Mike.
Anyways, Mike’s bf (and a close friend of mine) told me that ‘I thought better of you’ ,’I told you to be careful’ (he didn’t so idk what he’s refering to) and that ‘there is no coming back from this’
I understand that I should have listened to the audio and that it’s my fault for that but i feel like everyone’s overreacting and i also haven’t apologised its because if i tell them ‘i didn’t listen to it sorry y’all’ they will not accept it
TL;DR: My friend wanted to sneak into my school and made a joke in a serious tone which she clarified in an audio i never listened to and now i dont have friendse.
Some aditional context that might justify their overreaction: This comes after a fight this monday which was about the gc telling me that i was faking a mental disorder for attention, also idk if they cancelled their plans and that’s why everyone is mad or if something else happened(I haven’t spoken to them since the incident so this is all i know)
You’re willing to trash your friendship over someone sneaking their friend into a Christmas assembly? Please take this well, you need to chill the fuck out and enjoy your school experience without worrying about snitching on all your friends. They are not shooting up in the bathroom, they’re bringing their friend to a school event. Do you go to a crazy catholic school or something?
yes actually
Your friends are trash. It’s absolutely a terrible horrible no good very bad idea for TY to sneak into your school, and voicing that opinion shouldn’t get you shunned. You guys are all kids, so have a little grace, but definitely think about migrating to a friend group that makes more mature and overall better life choices.
You can tell a lot about a person from the friends they have.
Find better friends.
If you genuinely didn’t know the thing you said was untrue, you weren’t lying. I think your best option is to come clean and explain why you didn’t know. Better to have people know you didn’t bother to listen to the audio, than to have people think you listened to it and lied about it, right?
fyi when mike asked me about the text i told him ‘because i didn’t listen to the part where she said that it was a joke’ so i assume he told the others
NTA. These people are not real friends. Be glad they have cut you off. You were right to voice your concerns about the plan, but after that, you should have just let them sink in their own actions and just stay clear of the whole thing.
Oh sweetheart, “You are the company you keep”. Let’s say you didn’t (or don’t in the future) snitch and something goes wrong. Even if it wasn’t your idea or you didn’t help you’d still be complicit. It’s your life and you can try to fix things with them, but I strongly suggest finding better friends.
Why did you care so much?
bc they’re my friend
“she had to leave the school due to some drama”
A proverb I hope you will take to heart: Show me your friends, I’ll show you your future.
i understand what you’re saying but she left not because of a normal teen drama but because of some REALLY serious problems inside and outside of school
You’re NTA on like a moral level but you’re not going to have many friends in life