This will be simple.
I went to college today and before the last class started, I realized my phone was dead. I borrowed a charger from a friend and he gave it to me.
(Note: I sit right at the front of the classroom and he sits further back)
I was focused on the class and, when it ended and the professor went to take attendance, my friend was no longer in the room.
However, when I went to get my phone, I realized he had left the charger behind.
I brought his charger with me to return it the next day, but a little while ago he texted me very angrily saying that I should have told him about the charger or texted him as soon as class ended so he could go back from his house to school and get it (I didn’t see him leaving early because I was focused on the class and he lives far from the school) and saying that now he would be without his phone all night because of me.
In my view, it seemed like he just wanted to blame me for something that was his responsibility, but since he was irresponsible, he needed someone to blame.
From his point of view, since he had already lent me the charger, it was my responsibility to notice its absence or find a way to return it as soon as I realized he was no longer in the room.
Am I the asshole in this situation?
NTA
You didn’t take the charger, he left it.
NTA – it was his responsibility. He should’ve remembered to pick it up from you. You kept it safe until you ran into him again.
Nta.
His fault for leaving without it.
Nta she “taking” the charger. But you should have texted him to remind him you had it
NTA you can also get a charger for like $15 and even return it the next day if he’s that pressed. It’s his responsibility to get his things. Sure you could’ve texted him but again it’s his responsibility.
I offered to go to his house right now, in the middle of the night, but he just kept saying I was wrong and insisted on picking it up tomorrow. Lol
Let him be pissed then. It’s like trying to console/rationalize with a toddler at this point
NTA. HE chose to lend you the charger, He chose to leave early. It’s not your fault he made those decisions. Does no one else in his household have a charger? Does he not have a spare? Most people I know have several chargers around.
NTA – He left it behind. You were nice to keep it with you so it wouldn’t get taken by someone else (would have been nicer, though, had you texted him to let him know it was safe).
He only has the one charger? I have a jar filled with charger cables, and a box of adapter plugs. A small hoard, because if an electronic breaks beyond repair and the charger still works, I hold on to them. Good for if I misplace/lose one, and also comes in handy when I find someone greatly in need of a charger. I’ve had visitors before talking about needing to stop and buy a new charger, and I’d put the box and jar on the table, “See if you can find a compatible one and take it. Save your money for more important things.” They always think they need to pay for it, and I point out, “Most people would have tossed these—technically they’re clutter. By taking one you’re doing me a favor by making space for the next one to end up in there. If anything, pay it forward in the future to someone else needing a favor.”
Not saying your friend should adopt this habit, but it’s something I simply wish more people would do. I like the idea of us all looking out for each other, even in small ways like this.
ESH
You should have texted him.
He shouldn’t blow up at you.
How wee you suppose to know that was his only charger? I always have multiple ways to charge my phone so I don’t have to worry about things like that. I agree he just wanted to be able to blame someone else for his mistake. I personally would assume that if he was willing to loan it out and then forget about it that he had other methods to charge his phone. Who only has a single charger in this day and age?
I have a charger in my kitchen, a charger in my bedroom, and a charger in my car. How does a person only have one charger? nta