My mom told me last year when she was 68 that she wants me to throw big party for her 70th bday. Her birthday is in July and she is turning 70 this year! So I was thinking about it and other than my siblings I really don’t know who to invite. I sent her a text and this is what she sent back. I have no idea if she has many friends or who they are. Now
She’s all mad at me because I should have just done it and it’s nots really a party for her if she has to help plan it.
NTA “just done it” how? Read her mind and swung a crystal over the phone book and invited whoever it stopped over?
NTA. Sounds like she’d also be pissed if you didn’t include some of her friends that you didn’t know about…..
NTA. If I were throwing a large birthday party for a parent, I’d absolutely want to know who they’d want invited (outside of the usual family). Maybe there are people she didn’t want invited..but you wouldn’t know that unless you ask.
theres a difference between a surprise party and a party. She absolutely has to help plan it, and tell u who her friends are exactly. NTA.
NTA. You don’t know the people she knows. Does she want you to sneak into her phone and just invite everyone in her phonebook?
NTA your not a mind reader
nta – she wants the party so she can tell you who she wants there. if you make the guest list without her input, there’s a chance she’ll get mad if certain people were/weren’t invited. tell her if she helps with the list, you’ll take care of everything else. if she doesn’t want to comply, then she accepts the risk of not knowing who’ll be there.
also how does your mom expect you to contact the guests to send invites when she won’t give you any info??
INFO: you said “I sent her a text and this is what she sent back” – what did she send back? Is something missing from your post?
NTA. It’s not unreasonable to ask her to help with a guest list. Your mom knows who she considers important and she asked for the party so it’s not a surprise. Also you need contact information for these people.
NTA, its not a surprise party, she asked for it. How are you supposed to know all the people she wants, I bet she would get mad if you didn’t invite the right or all the people she wanted
NTA based on what’s here. You didn’t ask her to plan the party, you just asked for a list of names/contact info for the people she wants to be invited. If you don’t know her friends, how are you supposed to invite “her people” to the party? Does she expect to have (and enjoy) a party where all the guests are people you know (and she probably doesn’t)?
Would you siblings have any idea of who mom wants as guests? Is there a single friend of hers who you do know that could help here?
Nta if your mom wants a big party she should throw it herself. What an egotistical self centered request. Your mom is a huge ahole.
This post needs more info regarding “ she’s all mad at me”. If this is the only comment she made I believe that there are NAH. Actually sounds like she’s actually doing you a favor by realizing that you are quite busy and don’t have time to plan it. She doesn’t sound angry or out of sorts. 🤷♀️, unless there’s more that wasn’t shown here.