so i have a roommate who is honestly a good person and a wonderful person to live with but i have one problem with her. she doesnt do laundry until she has nothing to wear anymore. she wears and drops them dirty till its just too many, mind you its not scattered around she arranges them in her space(not that it makes the act better). I have spoken to her about it but she thinks its not a big deal.
Now the problem is whenever this happens she starts using my things which im starting to get uncomfortable with so in a bid to help her better herself i asked her to stop using my things in the most polite way possible. A couple of nights ago I didnt let her go out with my dress and shes been giving me the silent treatment since then.
AITA for doing this cus shes a good person.
NTA. Her procrastination in doing laundry is not your issue. Some roommates do share clothes but some do not.
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NTA. SHE IS NOT A GOOD PERSON.
You’ve asked her repeatedly to not use your things …..and she still does. And because you won’t let her wear your dress out, she’s treating you badly.
You need to recalibrate your “good person” meter. A person is good if they are good to their friends. She is not good to you, supposedly her friend.
NTA. A good person doesn’t pout and give you the silent treatment after being told, quite reasonably, to not use your clothes. Especially going out in something that she will quite likely ruin with stains and rip on a night out. I also highly doubt with how selfish she is, that if she damages or looses your clothes that she will pay for them.
She wants clothes, she washes them. Your clothes are not a buffet for her to pick and choose from.
thanks for this
NTA
Your wardrobe is not her shopping centre.
I recommend a lock on your door.
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NTA. In any relationship there’s gonna be resentment if boundaries aren’t set. If you then never reinforce or present consequences, it’s just a hollow request with no expectation to be a serious request. She’s butt hurt. If it continues have a talk. Sometimes it’s all about perspective.
i tried talking with her and she just said she had to be somewhere and left
NTA. She’s not behaving like someone who respects you.
People who are good and wonderful until you set a reasonable boundary that inconveniences them are not all that good or wonderful. The silent treatment for not loaning her a dress? That’s some juvenile shit right there. NTA and stay firm on that boundary.
NTA
She’s not a good person of she’s taking your stuff. She’s not a good person if she treats you badly because you let her take your stuff. She’s not a good person.
NTA – it is completely fine for you not wanting people to borrow your things without asking. And it is completely fine for you to say no to a request. The fact that she is sulking over this shows how immature she is.