I (19F) met my boyfriend (26M)’s parents for the first time last weekend over lunch. He warned me his parents could be a little bit weird so I was prepared for that but during the lunch they made repeated jabs at me for my age which I did not appreciate. The topic of pets came up in the conversation and I told them about my pet rabbits. When his dad heard this he asked whether I was raising them for food and at this point I was quite offended and said "well are you raising that cat for food?" and pointed at their cat, to which he said something to the effect of "don’t talk back" which I found quite infantilising and a bit creepy. I excused myself from the lunch.
If the boyfriend isn’t even standing up for you, maybe you should find someone else. He a full adult with a barely legal teen for a reason… Can’t find someone his own age willing to accept him? His weird family should have been put in their place from the jump, but he’s letting them belittle you and talk to you in a way that requires you to have to stand up for yourself. Excuse yourself from that relationship.
NTA.
He made an inappropriate, provocative comment about your pets, and you responded in kind. If he didn’t like the comparison, he shouldn’t have started it. Telling you “don’t talk back” was condescending and out of line, especially to an adult guest. Excusing yourself was reasonable.
Pisses me off, every time you say you have a pet rabbit people always like to make a ‘hilarious’ rabbit stew comment or similar and it’s like shall I shove your dog in a stew? Wait, Not funny? Right back at you. NTA
Pointed out some hypocrisy and a fully grown adult didnt take that well. That said, why didnt your boyfriend stand up for you? That in addition to the age gap is worrying.
New boyfriend time.
Why were they attacking YOU for existing as a 19 year old, and not your bf for dating a teenager?
If someone has an issue with the age-gap, blame the older person. Instead too many ppl are patronising and rude to the younger person.
So no, it makes no sense that he asked if you were gonna eat your own pets, anymore than if someone asked a horse owner if they were gonna carve their animals into steak. You were there, and it was obviously a bad “joke”.
You excused yourself like the self-assured and collected person you are, so not sure why folks are suggesting that your measured withdrawal from the drama was in any way immature.
EDIT to deliver verdict: NTA
nta but why tf is someone almost 30 dating a teenager?
Why is a 26-year-old dating a teenager
For real
At one point, I found out my son (29m) was dating a 17f. I was not happy, but he swore she was ‘the one’. It turned out she used him for money, had him buy her a bunch of stuff, then ditched him when she found another sucker. I told him he got what he deserved from that.
She was a child being groomed by your son. I hope she took him for all he had.
He wasn’t a sucker, he was a predator
Just for the record your son was not the victim there.
**A 26-year-old man has no business dating a teenager**