My girlfriend and I have separate apartments, and I recently moved into mine. When I didn’t have my own apartment, we stayed at her place most of the time. It was normal for me to pay for part of the groceries when we went shopping together.
Now that I have my own place, we mostly hang out at mine. I usually go grocery shopping before the weekend, and I do it alone. So I’m planning to ask her if she could pay for part of the groceries that she also consumes (snacks, drinks, part of the meals we cook together, and so on).
Am I the asshole for asking my girlfriend to pay for her share afterward?
Update: Because of the questions. I ask her specifically if she wants something when I go shopping and I don’t want her to pay half of my bill only a share she feels comfortable and is reasonable.
Don’t ask her that if you are going shopping alone. Personally I would find it so wierd of my boyfriend asked me to split his grocery bill.
I think it was nice for you to contribute when you were shopping together. Did she ask you to contribute or did you feel obligated to so you offered? Is she eating half of your food?
Yeah or ask beforehand. Landing it on her afterwards would be weird. Have the discussion and figure it out before asking for money for something already bought!
She’s your gf visiting you. If that bothers you just don’t hangout so much at your place.