I live in a semi-detached house. It’s an old house and the walls are extremely thin. I can literally hear my neighbours cough and sneeze. So I can hear everything else 🙁
Anyways, every morning all of a sudden on Saturday and Sunday, without fail for the last few weeks he’s been vacuuming at 6am
And I’m talking like 5:40 going on 6am not 6am about to be 7am
I work full-time during the week, so weekends are the only mornings I get to actually sleep in.
I thought he was doing it at first because perhaps someone was visiting, but it’s obviously his new normal and it’s really pmo
AITA if I go round and tell him to stop vacuuming so fucking early ?
like half of me kind of thinks he’s doing it deliberately. Surely most people would wait until at least 9am ??
Personally I just think it’s pretty rude and inconsiderate but I’m also quite shy and feel a bit uncomfortable telling him what to do
Idk what to do lol it feels awkward but I’m getting really frustrated because I want a lie in on the weekends 😩
I don’t think you’re an asshole asking him to wait until later, however, he’s not an asshole if he ignores your request either.
This is part of living in an apartment. You can’t choose your neighbors and there is always noise. Maybe you could get noise cancelling headphones or ear buds for those mornings?
Unless there is something in your lease about quiet hours – there’s not much you can do.
The neighbor would absolutely an asshole for vacuuming an apartment at the asscrack of dawn after being told the noise is disruptive.
Reddit loves telling people to put headphones on as though it’s super easy to sleep with them, or that prolonged earplug usage never leads to wax blockages and ear infections.
We live in a society, for gods’ sake. Part of living an apartment means *not doing anti-social shit* like vacuuming at 5:40 a.m.!
NTA — First check to see if there are any municipal noise ordinances, like 8:00 AM to 10:00 PM. Second, very politely ask that your neighbors follow those guidelines. Third, get some nice wall hangings to dampen the sound.
YWNBTA if you just ask him nicely, either in person or through a kindly worded note. It should be easy for him to understand that making loud noise early in the morning could upset people.
I’d think twice about going over to your neighbour and demand they stop vacuuming so early in the morning without having a little chat. Maybe their work routine has changed. Maybe someone’s sick and can’t do the vacuuming during the day when you’re not around and now a spouse is doing the vacuuming on the weekend. I doubt they are just trying to rile you up, especially if this is something new.
It’s sounds like you have no relationship with your neighbours where you can bring up the subject without sounding like an AH. What would you do with neighbours who had a new baby? Ask them to gag the kid so you can sleep?
This is called life.
NAH. First, unless you’ve had some negative interaction with this neighbor before it’s extraordinarily unlikely they’re doing this on purpose. It’s just their new normal, get over yourself (politely). Second, it’s perfectly fine to go and politely explain and ask. Ideally, goover at a time during the week when you know they’re home. Don’t wait until they start vacuuming on a weekend. It’ll put you and them in a bad headspace.
NTA. Maybe take them a little gift like a plant or some dessert and ask very politely and put it all on you (you have the problem) and not on them (they are doing nothing wrong in their own home) and if they could wait a little while in the morning before turning it on how grateful you would be.. it’s worth trying
NTA. 6am weekend vacuuming is unreasonably early, especially with thin walls. Politely ask him to wait until after 9am on weekends – it’s a totally reasonable request and you shouldn’t feel bad about it.
NTA for asking, but unfortunately, unless your neighbour is in fact contravening noise by-laws, he also will not have to accommodate you (although if he were a decent person, he in my opinion would and in particular on the weekends).
I wonder if you having a fan on or wearing earplugs might help with the noise disturbance from the vacuuming (if your neighbour refuses to be accommodating). Also, if you have bare walls, stapling noise reducing drapes or noise reducing blankets onto the walls (with industrial staplers) could help with dampening external noises (we use it for traffic sounds but it might also work with regard to the vacuuming noises from your neighbour).
Are you in the UK? I ask because you said semi-detached. If you are, technically he shouldn’t be making that much noise before 7am which isn’t much better but it’s something. There’s no harm in politely asking so I’d say YWNBTA but keep it light.
To all those saying this is part of apartment living, OP clearly says they’re in a house, albeit with thin walls.
NTA. There is no harm in asking nicely if he can vacuum a little later. He might not even be aware it’s disturbing you.
Most people are ignorantly going about things in their own little bubble rather than being malicious.
If he does refuse to stop then he is an asshole and I would start vacuuming at midnight or whatever time he likes to sleep.
lol at the y t a comments, I’d love to go vacuuming round their house at 5 in the god damn morning and see how full of sunshine they are. NTA op just approach it as politely as you can with them incase they’re a crazy and take mad offense to it
NTA. I had to go next door and nicely yell at me new nbor to stop fucking hammering new flooring at 7 am on Sundays. He apologized that it was his only day off to do it. But I didn’t give a crap and I could do a nuisance complaint with the city. We compromised and laughed about it later. Just go talk to them, be nice, but firm, know the laws and hope for the best. But be warned: someone obsessively vacuuming that early could be a bit unstable. Be careful how you start the conversation. If it’s a single guy, you don’t need a new stalker, or a crazy lady that will start harassing you for little things. Good luck!
You would the TA if you “tell” him to stop vacuuming. You would NTA if you ask, in a nice and neighborly way, him not to vacuum so early.
He could be very understanding. He could be a jerk. Who knows? But you get more flies with sugar.