AITA for expecting in-laws and spouse to understand impact of travel on 2 y/o

First time posting, so bear with me:
I’m a SAHD, and my spouse and I traveled with our 2 y/o for Thanksgiving. We stayed two nights with her family, as they have the only place that accommodates what we need.

The problem is that traveling ALWAYS screws up my little one’s sleep. She slept maybe 8 hours total and she refuses naps when we travel. It takes me weeks to get her back on schedule, and she regresses something fierce (biting, hitting, etc.). I’ve spoken to her pediatrician and she says that it’s normal.

She co-sleeps, so her not sleeping = me not sleeping.

I expect my spouse and in-laws to understand that traveling is hard on her (and honestly me, I won’t lie). I’m always told I’m just being selfish and not considering their family time. The in-laws live about an hour or so away. My wife does work odd schedules, and isn’t able to stay with our little one very often. Maybe 3x a month.

Am I expecting too much? AITA?

Edited to add:
The in-laws often drag toys out around nap time/bedtime or protest that I’m going to try to get her down for a bit.

Co-sleeping is a result of little one getting sick a bit ago and that’s the only way I could get her to sleep. Working on breaking that.

The distance is day-trip worthy, but wife and in-laws always insist on overnighting if we travel down there. It’s a big fight if we don’t, and they’re never cooperative on us leaving on time. I guess I’m spineless in that regard.

Last edit: thanks to everyone for the advice. I appreciate different viewpoints on this. I’m just trying to make things work as best I can. Again, thanks.